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Pity post - need a rant

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23Elfie · 19/12/2022 21:19

Not expecting any replies just need to get my tiny violin out and have a moan.

I've picked up Covid for the first time (I think from my brother in law who text yesterday to say he had it and then disclosed his work mate who he is in and out of a lorry with all day had it last week and carried on working)
I saw BIL on Saturday.

My word the headache just wouldnt go today!
DD is 8 and finished school for the Xmas holidays today at lunchtime. We went straight home and chilled.
Ex is supposed to have her on Wednesday as I may be needed in court for work (although I probably won't be let in now anyway but if I wasn't needed would be doing normal work at home) and told him 2 months ago that whatever happens he has to have DD on Wednesday. Ok he says - plans to dump her on gf who is a teacher (this is gf no 6 in 8years).
I told him I have Covid as his gfs mum has a terminal diagnosis. He said ok pls test DD Tuesday and Wednesday morning if she is still negative all ok - fine.
Text today - GF can't have DD her mum isn't comfortable with it. As I probably wont be able to go to court it don't matter does it - erm no I'm still trying to work while feeling shit which will be boring as hell for DD plus I'm trying not to let her too near me where possible so I said I still need YOU to have DD as planned as I asked you not gf anyway.

He had a strop but once I'd pointed out that actually gf sits in a classroom with 30 kids all day it's more likely she'll take something home from school then from my DD.

He never ever offers to help when I'm ill or DD is ill. Never. Even when I ask I get some shit excuse because he/his wallet/ his life is way more important than his daughter.

Blah blah blah.... felt a bit better this afternoon but desperately need an early night. Get DD into bed for 7:45 with aim for her to be asleep by 8 ish then I go to bed - nope - up crying at 8:30 saying her bottom hurts (most likely threadworm) had to SOS my mum to go to the chemist to grab some Ovex before it shut.

Is it too much to expect ex to say oh Elfie shall I take DD as my (very) seasonal job has wound down to near enough nothing and you rest up? Just for once?

I never moan about single parent hood and his shitness but this is when I struggle, when I'm the ill one.

Grrrr I pray tomorrow is a better day...

Rant over

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ShitShoweringClouds · 19/12/2022 21:30

Solidarity - I'm also a single parent and have been for 11 years. It's so hard when you're ill and have to carry on.

Your ex sounds like a cunt, but unfortunately so many men don't want to do the hard parts of parenting.

I'd try and get together some movies with headphones, Christmas crafts/wordsearches etc printed off. And let her have a quiet day while you get as much work done as you can.

And plan a lovely lunch for you both, so she has time to chat to you part way through the day.

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