The CSA currently have logged the ex has DC 2-3 nights per week. This was the case till four months ago when DC kept getting upset and he sends them home. In the last 4 months they have probably stayed over night 5 times.
Ex told me he was dropping 1 night per week, going to every other weekend. At the minute that weekend is either one day or very rarely one night.
Currently he is paying £100 per month (self employed, they are meant to be investigating). He is earning way way more)
He is blaming me for this upset saying that it's all my fault, which is utter lies. There was emotional and verbal abuse in the relationship plus control issues towards me (meets every criteria for grandiose narc). Quite frankly, I want the break! I want her to go and be happy so I can relax and get on with me life.
He is "waiting for me to tell the CSA" to prove his point that it is me trying to "get more money from him".
I haven't told them yet because I didn't want to give him the satisfaction, plus dropping to 1-2 nights per week only gives me about £20 more per month
Last night I found out he is spending £300 per week on a hobby, and im trying to eke out £50 to last the next week and a half till payday.
Do I tell the CSA to get what is fair, but it really isn't "fair" because he will let DC go without to hurt me without a second thought. Or do I keep quiet so as not to let him think he is proven "right"
I went to the CSA because after 3 months of begging he refused to pay for his child.
Thanks