Can't say no to plans!

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Ilikepinacoladass · 04/12/2022 21:53

Does anyone else have this. Me and my son rarely spend much time at home as I'm always taking him out to groups / the park / playdates etc. I get nervous about the idea of being at home on my own with him as worry about being lonely, and when people ask if I fancy doing something I find it really hard to say no!

Would really like to spend an afternoon (or day) in every now and again, as when have done it in the past I've generally ended up enjoying it. Just terrified of being lonely so find it hard to say no when someone asks!

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Starlightstarbright1 · 04/12/2022 22:04

You just have to find your own balance.
Sorry can't Tuesday . Can do the following Tuesday us a good way of putting it without saying no .

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Ilikepinacoladass · 04/12/2022 22:18

That's a good idea. I think it's an irrational fear that if I say no they won't ask again, or that I'll then have a few days of not seeing many people so grab onto the chances I have. As well as fomo! But am worried that missing out of spending quality time with my son..

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unicornsarereal72 · 05/12/2022 21:42

How long have you been a single parent? I planned every weekend with something. The children did an after school activity every night. I needed to be kept busy. Covid brought it all to a crashing halt. And of course we had to lock down. We now can be home and relax without me feeling like I'm always need to be in the go. It takes Time to adjust

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Ilikepinacoladass · 06/12/2022 18:51

@unicornsarereal72
For just over 2 years. Little one was tiny when we split up. Yes was very much a coping strategy in the early days, even during covid I met people outside whenever I could - deffo kept me sane!

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unicornsarereal72 · 06/12/2022 19:00

Start off small. Have a morning at home and then plan activities for lunch time onwards. Covid was a difficult time for my kids. They didn't really do pottering at home. We soon learnt how to feel comfortable doing nothing. Although I think yours maybe a little younger than mine. I put in a rule of me not getting out of bed before nine on a weekend. They could come in and talk to me. Or ask stuff but I wasn't getting out of bed. Being a single parent is exhausting so I had to prioritised my own down time

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