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Spename84 · 07/11/2022 20:40

My daughter met a new friend over the summer and they played out all the time in the front every day. Sometimes they’d come in the house for a bit and sometimes to her friends house. Now that it’s darker nights they are still wanting to play every single night after school. I’ve told them that mostly if they want to do that they’ll have to play out and come in earlier out of the dark but obviously it’s getting colder so I’ve let them play in sometimes. Well it’s got to the point where, not to be horrible to her friend as she’s a lovely girl, but I’m sick of the sight of her. Not only that but apparently her mum won’t let them play in her house and then her mum had the cheek to text me when her daughter told her her little brother couldn’t also come over to play which in any case he was her daughter lied ans said he wasn’t because she didn’t want to play with him. He’s 3. She text me being all petty saying if he’s not allowed then her daughter isn’t either. I feel like I’m being used here for a babysitter! My other daughter plays in her friends house sometimes but my older daughter isn’t allowed because she’s not the friend of the girls whose house it is. I wouldn’t expect all my kids to be allowed in! And especially ones that I’ll end up looking after because they’re only 3 years old! How do I approach this as I’m starting to lose my temper with it all because every time we get home her friend is waiting. Her mum even messages me to ask when I’ll be home so she can play and it’s every single night through the week and all day weekends. No matter what time. She’s there. She constantly asks when we’ll be back, she asks at the start of the week what days we’ll be in and when will we be back. It’s driving me crazy.

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Anon778833 · 07/11/2022 20:42

You need to change your plans for a few days and make it clear to the mum that you won’t be home after school for the rest of the week. What a CF the mum is!!

KylieCharlene · 07/11/2022 20:47

I'd text her asking what days DD can come to play at her house as it's lovely the girls are such good friends but you can't be the host every time.

PritiPatelsMaker · 07/11/2022 20:48

Agree she's a total CF.

Also agree that you need to make some plans to not be around. Maybe after school clubs, swimming or the library?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 07/11/2022 20:48

She text me being all petty saying if he’s not allowed then her daughter isn’t either.

Well this is the solution. Just text back saying "OK - make sure she understands she's not allowed here anymore". If your daughter complains, you can truthfully tell her the decision was made by her friend's mother.

Thehop · 05/12/2022 22:50

"Thanks for messaging to sort out a day the girls can play. Jane welcome here Tuesday, what night can they play at yours? I'm not able to watch James I'm afraid. Fully understand if this mean Jane can't come"

LBFseBrom · 04/04/2023 12:28

I certainly does seem a bit much. What a cheek to expect a three year old to accompany your daughter's friend.

However it isn't the girl's fault. As she and yours are now good friends, and if she is no trouble, I'd let her come but wouldn't allow them to play in the street or on pavement. Back garden or in house is better.

I do feel annoyed with the mother, though, even for asking.

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