should I just say yes??

[LoneLou]

I've not been on here for a while things were under control. Me and X have been arguing again, when ds isn't around. I'm still quite angry about the whole situation, him seeing another woman behind my back etc etc. But I have never throughout all this once said he cannot see ds. He has been seeing ds everyday, he picks him up from school when I'm at work and then drops ds back off to me when I get back. The time has come now where ds is going to stay at X and HER house this weekend, which gives me some time to let off a bit of steam shall we say. Me, X and ds are all fine with this but now X is demanding that he have ds every weekend! I have agreed that he can have ds every OTHER weekend and continue seeing him everyday like he does but he wants more. Can anyone sympathise with my situation? I think I'm being really fair by letting him see ds whenever he wants now, so why does he have to push it. Why should I lose my time with ds coz he chose to walk out?

I can understand how hard it must be for you to have your ds go to the other woman - and especially so as he likes her. But, honestly, she won't ever be able to take over from you. No other woman could ever be as important to that little boy as you. You're his mum and you're irreplaceable.

mummyofaprincess we have only been split up for 4 weeks.

LoneLou i must say, you are a very strong and a very good mummy.

4 weeks isn`t very long so him demanding every saturday is so unreasonable, plus you will loose out on time with your DS.

He has got to realise that he gets to see his DS in the week aswell, so every other weekend is best for all of you, and very very fair!

I hope you two can sort this out

Lonelou has 5 days parenting time per week so is entitled to have 2 days quality time also where it doesnt just include getting a child dressed and rushed to school then picked up, fed, bathed then bed, lou do you feel that he is wanting all this time cause he eventually wants to appear as the parent with care ?

exactly tinkerbel6. X did admit to me that maybe he hasn't been the best dad and he wants to make up for that, but it takes my time with ds just so he can make up for what he hasn't done in the past 5 years.
I don't mind giving him this chance but not if it interferes with my time with ds, coz like you said, I bath him, feed him, read bedtime story and all the usual stuff but coz of work and ds seeing daddy I don't get alot of 'quality time'

X has said a few time though that when ds is old enough he can decide where he wants to live, personally I don't think this is fair on ds, what do you think?

Only 4 weeks? You poor thing. Your head must be all over the place. I think h is feeling hugely guilty so wants to let ds know he still loves him. Unfair on you. Should you lose your h and ds in one fell swoop? Does h think you are his childminder or something? Sounds like you can be a little too fair sometimes and he is trying to push you around, knowing this.