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Half-sibling issue

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Lala1988 · 29/10/2022 18:16

My Sons father has taken a step back from regular parenting and is only seeing my son once every 6-7weeks with very little contact inbetween by his own choice (that is a whole other story/issue.)

Currently my sons father is making last minute plans to see his son and I have said my son is free to see him but he is using my sons half sibling (who is 10 months old and lives full time with his dad) as an excuse as to why I should be dropping my son to him ( 45 min drive) and that if I don’t do it then it is Me stopping my son from having contact with his half sibling and that I don’t care about my son.

my stance on it is that it is not my responsibility to ensure the relationship between my son and his half sibling is maintained when his dad is fully capable of doing so but choses not to for his own selfish reasons and that I shouldn’t be made to feel guilt or like I am doing something wrong. I have previously taken my son to his house to see his brother as he hasn’t seen him for 7 weeks but it’s the depth his dad is taking it to to make me feel like it’s my fault or fully my responsibility and if I don’t take him to see him then it’s ME alone stopping them having a relationship.

am I crazy in thinking that? Has anyone been through something similar?

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SpinningFloppa · 30/10/2022 01:15

Is he expecting you to do both or just split the journey so you drop he brings back?

KangarooKenny · 30/10/2022 07:49

It’s not up to you to facilitate contact with his new family. I have half siblings who I saw regularly when we were kids, now we are grown up I never see them. They are nothing more to me than any other person.

Lala1988 · 30/10/2022 08:31

he Wants to split the journey which isn’t the issue, it’s that if I’m not able to (petrol money) or I have things I need to do and he wants to make these last minute plans to see his son should I be made to feel guilty about my son then not seeing his half sibling? He believes that it is my burden to carry in regards to if I can’t do the last minute plan that HES decided he wants and how it’s going to go. Does that make sense?

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junebirthdaygirl · 04/11/2022 22:40

Just say his son is available if he wants to see him come and get him. You have taken care of him for the past 7 weeks the least he can do is come and collect him and drop him back.
Just say..l'm sure you will work it out. No other comments. I am a great believer in one sentence.

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