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Should I be letting baby dad see my daughter or not?

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Babygirlmum · 21/10/2022 14:00

Cut a very long story short I will try and make this brief without doing around the world, my ex left me while pregnant and didn't want to be a dad and said some nasty stuff and I was in a bad place, cut that short I've now had the baby she is 7 months old he got back in contact with me when she was 3 months old due to me getting in contact with CM and in my thoughts that was the only reason he got in contact as it had taken him 3 months and a CM letter to contact me bare in mind he seen a pic of her on my whatapp and never got in contact, he asked could he see her after a lot of thought and stress I allowed him to see her and was willing to give him a chance after what he had done this was hard for me, he has seen her three times for a few hours with me there he has tried things with me but then he hasn't came through as a dad like any mother would expect from a man I noticed he wasn't asking about her he did for the first few days and then just stopped but would ask questions about me and my life and bothered about what I was up to, he was off work for 9 days last week and didn't once see her although he wanted to make it a regular thing when he was off work, let me add he does live long distance but other than that nothing should get in the way when he's off work, me a protective mum and being her only parent and bringing her up for 7 months on my own I keep changing my mind about weather I should let him see her or not at first I didn't think he was doing it for the right reasons and now I just haven't got a clue what his intentions are I am not having my daughter getting hurt like what he done to me he left me broken pregnant and was horrible but now I am thinking is this the right decision am I selfish am I being unrealistic am I a bad person am I nasty am I being dramatic or am I doing the right thing I don't know what to do it's such a hard thing for me as his intentions don't show me he wants to be a good dad to my daughter.

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SpinningFloppa · 21/10/2022 14:09

I think you need to set up proper contact and stick to it so set up days and times not just when he feels like it. I wouldn’t think of it as you “letting him” as if he room you to court he would be given some kind of contact and maybe more than you would actually like so best to work together.

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