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Are you going to give your ex a present for Christmas?

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tammybear · 29/11/2004 20:07

Just wondering as I think I should get exp something from dd, but dont know what, and dont particularly want to splash out money that I dont have on him.

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morningpaper · 29/11/2004 20:09

Aw nice idea, I always suggest this but what about buying a small cavas and getting DD to paint all over it? Or buy a nice frame and give him a framed pic? They are the kind of presents that children LOVE to give.

Donbean · 29/11/2004 20:09

OOOh you are inviting some class suggestions here Tammy!
im going to watch this thread through my hands.........

subs · 29/11/2004 20:12

am i b*ocks!....

Donbean · 29/11/2004 20:12

And here we go!!!!!!

subs · 29/11/2004 20:14

point taken - think pressies from babies is best plan.

what about ex MIL and co?

Hulababy · 29/11/2004 20:14

My friends are separated but each of them always buy a gift from their DS to his mummy or daddy. I think it's a nice thing (where possible) as it is what their DS wants to do.

Donbean · 29/11/2004 20:15

No subs, you made me laugh out loud,nearly woke DS up! Ta for that x

subs · 29/11/2004 20:16

aim to please!

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tammybear · 29/11/2004 20:16

lol, i meant from the children. im not bothering about the rest of the family, i can leave that for exp to do if he has any sense about him which i suppose he doesnt and will probably expect me to do, well sod that

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joash · 29/11/2004 20:18

Actually, I'm glad this thread is here. I'm in a similar situation - do I buy pressie for dickhead daddy from grandson?

Will watch this space fervently!!

subs · 29/11/2004 20:19

how about a book on responsible parenting?

might get mine one on NOT DRINKING THE NIGHT BEFORE SEEING HIS CHILDREN!

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tammybear · 29/11/2004 20:20

subs i like that idea!!

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joash · 29/11/2004 20:20

Know type of book I'd rather buy, not many written on "do-it yourself batterings" though.

subs · 29/11/2004 20:22

or tickets for a day out for dd and ex so i get some time off!!!

or maybe a short holiday (although i wouldnt wish it on her)

mummyloves · 01/12/2004 22:54

Thought about this one, LOVE the idea of the book on sensible parenting!!!! But the bottom line is, I'm not going to spend a bean I've earned on him, when he refuses to pay a penny to DS. Sorry, "couldn't afford it!", not even the stamp to send him a picture drawn by DS. Harsh maybe, but DS doesn't want to see him anyway and certainly doesn't talk about him. If in future years DS comes up with the suggestion that he'd like to give something to daddy then fair enough, I wouldn't hurt his feelings, but it would still have to be a home drawn picture.

Caligula · 01/12/2004 23:00

How about a very prettily presented bill for all the maintenance he owes me, complete with holly and ivy round the edges?

amylou · 02/12/2004 12:32

I just happened to look in a charity shop yesterday and picked up a 4 film dvd for £2 - so my daughter can give her that!

amylou

Christmassbee · 02/12/2004 23:54

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nightowl · 03/12/2004 03:16

not for ds's dad..well he never does it for me, he'll get a card and be happy with it. (sticks tongue out at him childishly). as for dd's...i was seriously going to send him a card as if written by her telling him what she does now and what she looks like...but where can i buy one that contains a huge expanding leg to kick him in the nuts after he's finished reading it? do clintons do them? i also think he'd look especially festive with a piece of holly shoved up his a**e...not that im bitter or anything

SuzyStockings · 03/12/2004 09:16

I wouldn't Tammybear, I think it gives mixed messages. You're also setting precendence for future years - birthdays/Christmas/easter/fathers day etc

Would he get something for you from dd for you birthday/christmas for mothers day?

I think it's a nice thought but in long run probably not such a good idea. Generally his parents (or new partner?) will get somethng for him from your dd.

And why should you spend your money on him????

5goldendillydallys · 03/12/2004 10:01

He will get flip all from me, but when DD makes something he normally gets given something, a picture or a card etc
I am still waiting for a thank you from last year, but then again I am still waiting for a "You are doing a good job raising DD" type comment also
Teeth gritted, plastic smile attached firmly to face

THEnorthstar · 03/12/2004 10:04

I'm with subs on this one

tammyBEARinggifts · 03/12/2004 11:30

i was only going to get him a present from dd to give to him, but i cant afford to buy my family anything at this rate, so i doubt he'll be getting anything from dd at this rate

TwasTheNightBeforeXmasOwl · 05/12/2004 03:50

how old is dd? is she old enough to "make" him something..someone did mention that i think..could solve your problem if you really feel you have to?

tammyBEARinggifts · 05/12/2004 11:19

she's 2 in a couple of weeks, so could do a painting or something, but will see how it goes, as with how im feeling at the moment, id rather not do anything nice for him.

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