Court visitation - AIBU

[Mummy172113]

So my ex partner is having his first supervised, court ordered visit with the kids in 10 months tomorrow. He's already causing issues with the supervisor (demanding she send court order to him, demanding she makes sure kids go park, demanding she follow his rules and not allowing kids follow my general behaviour rules tomorrow).

It's only a 2 hour visit tomorrow yet he's unwilling put the kids first. He's demanding park visit but the kids are scared of him and haven't seen him in a long time. My eldest has severe anxiety and is a flight risk when he gets scared hence why visitation is supposed be at supervisors where they can build to community visits as stated in the order.

Thoughts please?! What would you do?!

Who is the supervisor?

All you can do is tell her your fears re your dc running away, that they are worried about seeing their dad again.

The supervisor should look after them, shouldn't they?

I hope it goes well.

I would make the important points in an email to the supervisor and ask how they will ensure that the children will be kept calm and safe, given their fear and flight risk. Copy in anyone else that you feel is appropriate. Keep it brief and factual.

If the court order is for supervised contact in a closed contact centre then that's where contact should take place and the supervisor will ensure the order is followed. Have you spoken to them? Don't agree to contact in the community, it needs to build up slowly provided things are going well. He can kick up a fuss about wanting things his way, it doesn't matter - this is about the children and what the court has ordered is in their best interest. Make sure you ask for a report from the supervisor so you can submit it to court and if his behaviour has been unreasonable or abusive it will be evidenced. Good luck x

Thank you!

It's been a whirlwind. I'm waiting for my solicitor clarify key points - he saw the kids at the supervisors house last weekend.

The actual order states "Supervised and handover facilitated by maternal aunts to take place at her home with some activities taking place within the community" I contested this but the magistrates ignored my objections

My lads anxiety has been at peak since though, his dads his emotional trigger so not sure what else I can do to help him