I posted this on Ainu yesterday but didn't get that much of a response and was hoping to have a chat about this to put my mind at ease!
I have main custody of dc.
I have always taken him to his medical app, even when ex and I were together.
Ex sees dc but has been very unreliable recently and been cancelling ally.
Ex abused me emotionally after our split. He threatens to take children off me whenever I disagreed with him and tore me apart. We seem to have reached stable ground recently but mainly because I let him dictate to keep the peace.
Last time dc had a dentist app (which Was on my time) ex told me he wants advance notice about his appointments.
Dc has an app coming up so I told ex about it and he said he wants to take him. I told ex I would be present for the appointment but he is free to come. He's now saying he doesn't want to.
Ex has always accused me of exaggerating dc illnesses (which is ridiculous and not true).
I'm feeling like this is a control thing on his part. Why would you ask to take dc to the app on his own and I don't go? I would not trust ex taking dc to the app and addressing all concerns and giving me the correct information. I do not feel comfortable missing medical apps when o have always been there.
Aibu to say he can jointly attend but I will be there or is this controlling?
think ex likes his face to be seen so he can present himself as the doting dad who is very involved. He cares very much about the opinion others have of him.
I think he's trying to a) do this to look good b) push me out of the apppointments c) control
It might sound minor, but obviously there's a history to this. I just want to make sure I'm not being unreasonable by saying that he can come but I'll be there too when it comes to medical appointments.