Depressed

[singlemumto2]

So today I have been on to a mental health team because I have felt depressed for the last two months. I am also just getting over covid and am a single mum to two boys who now have covid themselves, I feel like I have no time for me at the moment and work are making me feel bad for taking time off to look after my boys. The mental health team said coming on and talking to people would help xxx

Sorry to hear you are struggling. How old are your boys. I hope they are feeling better soon. Lone parents board is quiet I'm afraid.
Just take each day as it comes. And do what you can. Family first always. Try and get what time you can to yourself. Mine are older now but I use to go to bed pretty much when they did. It saved on heating and I'd rather be relaxing in bed than sat on my own down stairs. And I needed a lot of sleep when the kids dad first left. Simple dinners the kids liked pasta and baked potatoes. Things on toast. Meet up with friends and family when you can. Change of company helps. Keep talking to people here or in real life and I hope you are feeling better soon

Hey, I'm a loan parent to one son.

I found getting him into clubs was great. So he goes to a club on a Wednesday evening for 1hour 15mins and I use that time to go grab myself a nice coffee and cake because I don't need to stay.

Then he does rugby, and I've made an effort to join in, so parties down the rugby club, and also whilst he's training/playing I'm on the sidelines and feel I can breath a bit for those times and chat to other parents.

I know it's not a fix or a great amount of time, but I find it's helped my mental health loads, just having that little time to myself once a week.

Thankyou guys for your kind words. Its not easy so it's nice to get advice off people who know exactly how it feels xxx

They are 12 and 6, the oldest has special needs xxx

Do you get any pockets of time to yourself. Do the children see their dad. Or grand parents so you get a break. Is there support for your eldest needs?

My son had ASD. My youngest ADHD. Together they make a sensible person 😀. They are old enough now I can go out for an hour or two. So I joined a small running group. I can't run. But it gets me out exercising and fresh air. It has made a massive difference to my mental well being.

Are there some changes you think you could make? I find a good declitter helps me feel better and more organised at home. I have a wall calendar which has everything on it I meal plan have simple meals the days I work. Walk the dog everyday. I still feel sad. But currently dealing with terminal Ill parent so it's to be expected but also sad I'm doing it without a partner in my life. I thought the kids dad would be by my side through this time but that wasn't to be. And I'm trying to find joy in the small things right now. Cosy bed with hot water bottle. Planning days out with the kids. It's not easy I've battled with my mental health for many years. Just go day by day and know your boys think you are an amazing mum and you are worth it.

My oldest absolutely hates being left at home without me. I have friends who I'm supposed to be going out with Saturday, but I'm also not feeling well. My boys are amazing but the only time I really get to myself is when I have a nice long bath. My oldest has never met his dad, and my youngests dad is a complete narcissist so even if I tell my boy wants to see him, he will have a go. The last time I dared say something he told me that he was going to see him but because I asked him to see him he wasn't going to xxx