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Niki357 · 22/09/2022 06:39

Just looking for some advice really.
Me (25F) and my now ex partner (28M) have just split, we have been together for about 4 and a half years. Our relationship has always had issues, but they really kicked off when I found out I was pregnant with out daughter (12Month) but after a year of trying I decided I couldn't be in the relationship anymore, long story short I was doing 100% of everything and he went to work. I have ME/CFS so doing everything by myself was difficult including all night feeds ect and only getting 3 hours sleep at times.

But anyway. I decided to call it quits, I have no bad feelings towards him at all and I want to co-parernt the very best we can for our daughter but I can't help being petrified for the future, I'm not so much worried about having our daughter as I've pretty much been a single parent in that aspect since she was born but I'm worried about money and the house (it's rented) I don't have a job as I had to leave 2 weeks after going back due to my ME/CFS and not getting any support at home and I knew I couldn't do both so I chose to be a SAHM but I have no idea where to go from here, I have an amazing family for will support me as much as they can but I just feel stuck, I'm going to struggle to get a council house as the demand is very very high in my area and I've looked for a cheaper house but nothing.

Sorry for the rant, just really struggling, I feel so guilty for breaking up my family and not giving my daughter the family she deserves and have no idea what to do

Thanks for reading

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Olivia199 · 22/09/2022 16:08

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can't imagine how hard it is trying to get your head around everything.
I'm 28 with a 12 month old and I'm a solo mum by choice. I'm in private rented too and I'm eligible for some universal credit which really helps, especially with childcare costs as I go back to work.
Have you looked into this and applied? You'll get a housing element for the rented property and although they may not pay it all, they should cover up to the average price of a house in your area. (That you're eligible for, which would be a 2 bed). You may also be able to claim some support due to the ME/CFS.
All I can say is that it does and will work out. You'll both land on your feet and be absolutely grand. It'll take some time but the support around you sounds amazing and you're already doing all the aspects of parenting alone!

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