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DD birthday party

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starynight63 · 09/09/2022 14:36

So a little backstory first... My ex left me when our DD 2 was 6 months, had an affair and was emotionally and financially abusive during relationship and also emotionally abusive after too. I had a lot of therapy and am now in a much better place personally, but he still is very disrespectful and lies to me a lot. He started having her over night every other weekend, she's still breastfed so not been able to before. But he would keep in touch all the time, every day messaging not only to ask after DD but also me what I was doing etc etc would pop round unannounced and always know what I was doing.

I stopped all contact with him a few weeks ago apart from essential contact regarding DD as it was doing nothing but keep me hooked and cause me stress and anxiety. My problem is DD is turning 2 in a few months & I will be organising a little party with family and some close friends and their LO's.. I really don't want him there as I know how much it will effect me & the day, it will be held on my time with her but my question is do I have to invite him? I know he will massively guilt trip me and cause a problem when he finds out and I don't want him to come, but am I wrong to say no?

Honest opinions please 🥹 x

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wildseas · 09/09/2022 14:43

No you definitely don’t have to invite him but I would try my best to reduce the likely drama.

So, hold the party on a day which isn’t her birthday, don’t tell her until the day before so she doesn’t tell him, don’t put anything on Facebook, if he asks afterwards don’t call it a party just say it was a play date with cake. Job done.

Starlightstarbright1 · 10/09/2022 08:41

Agree with above... unless vital medical information reduce discussions about Dd.. it won't be co parenting anyway..

Now he has time and overnights that is his time.. the popping in unannounced is part of the control.

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