I was writing a post and it got quite long, then my computer crashed and i lost it all.
so i want to keep this brief. sorry if i sound like a crazy selfish person, i struggle to keep things short.
My children are teenagers so its entered their heads that they get a say in their lifes.
Its underlined as the teens think it means they can do whatever they like.
I think my ex is using this against me and the teens have cousins there and hes using them too.
My eldest got treated to a football season ticket and my youngest got brought a ps vr headset.
My eldest said can he go if we are not busy because his dad wants to get his moneys worth.
at the time we didnt agree what busy means. so basically all my weekends are the teen wants to go football so he goes, but a couple of times when its dads weekend, dad has gone out, they dont go.
we share the summer holidays and when its my time the teens said they didnt want to do anything just play computer games with their friends.
anything else was a effort. getting new school clothes was a constant moan.
my ex asked my eldest if he wanted to go to a game and asked my youngest to go aswell, he doesnt like football but my ex swapped the weekend so he didnt see them in a few days, they went but 1 hour before they were due home they asked to stay for a sleepover. so they did.
a few days home and they ask for another sleepover, they go but then the morning they are due home they say its two sleepovers.
My eldest sends me msg after msg (no chance to reply) saying dont pick them up then it doesnt matter what i say they wont come out the house.
so i said ok see you 2mo.
I dont communicate with ex so i did sent a text saying i dont mind one but can double be agreed before they go. id made plans. his reply was that thats not going to happen as the teens woke up and decided they wanted a sleepover and thats whats happening, i did point out that if we are raising the children like that how comes there are times when my eldest wants to go football but is told he cant go. the reply was that the children have asked for their mates round when he has them as they are embarrassed of my two bed house!!
(i spoke to them, without saying anything about what their dad said. my youngest said he asked to do something again with his friend as his dad got a discount card, the eldest is not doing anything)
when i picked them up im told the sleepover didnt happen! and they didnt come home as there dad went out drinking, i say i could have picked you up then they said the last message you sent said see you 2mo! i try to explain that i said that as i thought they had a sleepover, but my eldest said there wasnt one. this got repeated a few times.
This is where i sound selfish that i had two weeks and didnt see the teens the whole two weeks. yet when they go to their dads i dont see them. in the past they text me at night saying they miss me and they want to come home the next day. then the next day i get sent a text saying they change their minds as they didnt relised a cousin was coming over.
I moaned to my mum that the teens said they wanted to play games, and not go out, then they get action pack time with their father.
My mum said i should do the same as im missed out on memories with the teens, but i dont want to shower them with money.
my parents kept asking me to go away with them the last week of the hols, they go the teens are due home so id said we will pop over for two day, this was said before they went to their dads, my eldest said he would like to go and get a train there.
anyways i went to book a train and i think they are on strike. eldest doesnt know this.
my eldest texted me a saying they want to say they wanted to stay another night as there is a house party. (ive just remembered it happened last year they were late home. but that day i found out on the day!)
I reminded him about going away. today i get a text saying are we still are we still going, i say yes then he asks if we are getting a train, i say im not 100% sure but ill let you know, he then said no tell me now. i say i cant i dont know yet.
then i get a msg after msg saying tell me, tell me or im not going. then a msg of mum tell me but each letter is a text. then i get im sorry pls dont cancel. can we talk 2mo.
the place is booked and non refundable.
If your still reading thank you for reading my waffle.