Anyone in a similar situation, I’m looking for someone to talk to as I don’t really have anyone around me to do so

[Pammy0]

I am a single mum of a 1.5 yr old (I’m in my early 20s) and several months ago me and his dad split up, we both moved from our shared place to our parents (his live in wales so he was then 4 hrs away from me) and I was with my mum but she had to move out of her place which means we’re even further away from each other then 4 hrs and my ex only gets to see our son once a month (only for a few hours as he never wants to take him for the weekend in the hotel) and I really cannot for the life of me speak to him about anything he gets angry and blames me for everything even makes up constant lies about me which I have proof of are not true, his mother was always rude to me not knowing what I’m like and egged him on to be shitty towards me which led us to be in a situation we are now. I have a solicitor involved even and he even is disrespectful towards her and won’t take anything she says.

Hey I noticed you had no replies so I didn't want to read and run. Your post asks if anyone is in a similar situation - I can relate to so many things you wrote of so here goes:

• I'm a single mum too (but older and with 2 kids who are older than your little one)...

-My ex and I also lived with our parents - it was a while ago now and an utter shit show wherever we lived (including when we lived together, on our own, far away from anyone!) And then when we split, he lived far away from us (not as far as yours) and that was one of the things that made his contact with our kids tricky (he doesn't see them at all now)

• My ex was also angry at me for everything, all the time and blamed me for everything (in hindsight, I did this too 😬)

• my ex's mother wasn't rude to me BUT I didn't really get on with her either.

I'm not sure, if you wanted to hear from someone who is currently in talks with solicitors over contact, or whether you wanted to hear from a young, single mum like you living far from their child's father..I'm neither.. BUT as above, I can relate to a lot of your situation. So on that note, being a few years ahead of you in age and on the lone parent journey, I just want to wish you the best of luck with everything. It somehow all works out in the end, and one day you'll look back on these times and wonder how the hell you managed - but you will! Hang on in there, lean on your friends and your family for moral support and take each day at a time x