Hi, I'd really appreciate some input.
My Ex, and father of my dc 11, routinely lies about his health, work, leisure commitments to get out of his parenting responsibilities. Recently I've had to cross reference the lies on my calendar to try and make sense of what's going on.
For context he has DC EOW and one evening (usually Wednesdays) a week from the end of the school day until 7pm. During the school hols (ie now, from the end of school and overnight until I pick up at 9.30am the following morning).
Last week he asked to do Tuesday instead. I agreed, planned a meal out with a friend. 12pm Tuesday I received a message saying he had a very important meeting and would change to Wednesday. I was pleasant but mentioned I would now have to alter my own plans. He didn't care. Wasn't his fault, he has to work. Wednesday 2pm - hes not feeling very well and can't do it. I was less pleasant as I'd rearranged my plans and now my friend's schedule and my single working mum schedule means it will be Sept before we can meet up child free. Thurs 10am, he calls, he has a very important meeting and can't have DC. I reminded him about Tuesday and asked just how important he is? Yes, Tuesday's meeting had been cancelled and rearranged for Thursday and he can't understand why I'm upset as he'd made alternative plans (which he then cancelled).
Something similar happened the week before but he was more unwell (text at midnight to say he's been sick and won't be well enough to pick up DC at 4pm) than had work commitments.
Do I just have to suck this up? I'm consistently missing out on work opportunities, leisure time and being able to plan my own life - all because he can't /won't actually parent his child. Help, please!