How to deal with burnout?

[Pammy0]

Please does anyone have any advice that could help? I’m obviously a “lone” parent and my child’s father lives 5+ hrs away and gets to see him a weekend of each month (even sometimes a little less) and I have no one since moving into a new area not too long ago, I do live with my mother however she’s not someone I can ever have a conversation with how I feel, she does help with my 1.5yo but often it’s taking him without my permission (doesn’t care what I have to say) and I don’t know what to do. I haven’t got a job yet, little one will be going into nursery soon hopefully so hopefully that helps but does anyone actually have anything that helps?

I’m also a 21yo so reslly young, at first I thought that naturally I’m just a lazy parent since I act like this and am young, that’s what they say often but I have been realising that is not the case. On some really rare occasions I function well but throughout the days with my LO I often just end up laying there or sleeping even when he gets up from his nap (bedrooms toddler proof so is safe). This has been happening for around over a month. I don’t know what to do pls anyone any tips?

You need a routine to your day. If you need to nap when lo is napping that's fine but get up when baby does and go out.

Have you spoken to your gp or health visitor it sounds like your mood is low if you are struggling day to day.

Are you looking for work. Part time hours would give you routine and purpose. And meet people. And baby can be in childcare. UC will cover the cost up to 85%

You are quite young, but you are also a parent and I agree with the pp - routine is key, incorporating naps for your little one and yourself for sure, but when your child wakes - you need to be awake and attentive for your baby. Reframe this as being there for your child and wanting the very best for them.

Purpose in life can look very different to individuals - many parents may feel that their life holds great meaning looking after their children, while others might also need work or study or a hobby. Do you feel that you have meaning and purpose in your life @Pammy0? If you don't, perhaps it is time to put more energy into exploring some of these other areas. This could be baby steps in the direction you want to go, such as a short course of study.

As pp suggested, it may be low mood that is perhaps making you feel unmotivated or wanting more rest. Aside from a GP visit, can you increase things in your life that you find enjoyable?

Also you mention that some days you feel you are functioning well - what is going on on those days to make this occur? Could you increase whatever this is in your life?