What to do

[octobersunshine]

Could do with some thoughts on how best to approach this.

Long story short, my son's dad has a habit of taking me to court for any miniscule difference in views. He wasn't involved in son's first three years of life. In the three years since he's taken me to court about eight times. He emails the judge so regularly its insane.

Anyway, we had a few back and fourths yesterday as he wanted to pull DS out of school due to the heat. I spoke to the school and they weren't concerned. I've looked back at the messages and objectively, he becomes increasingly vicious towards me calling me all kinds of things. I feel like I stay very dispassionate and calm.

About an hour later, he copies me into an email to the family court saying I've disrespected the order telling the court a pack of lies and using selected screenshots whilst not including others. I've got no doubt the two are linked. His ego is bruised because a woman didn't immediately do what he wants.

Half of me feels like rebutting his email in an email including the screenshots of messages he didn't include. I feel I've done nothing wrong and have nothing to do hide. But also Im loathe to lend legitimacy to this by responding because it happens so frequently. Should I respond or just wait to see if the court do anything?

I think I'd take the higher ground in this case. If he wants to amend the order or something there would be a hearing where you can submit a statement and include messages etc. Is this a Child arrangement order you have in place? What part does he feel you are 'not respecting' because it sounds like he just doesn't like you not following his orders?

Thanks for this. As far as I know, it's just an email to the judge rather than an application. My understanding is he'd have to file an application for any tangible changes or actions by the judge.

He's saying I haven't complied with court order in terms of holidays. I wrote to him that morning with the name of the hotel and i'd only booked the night before. The hotel name was spelled wrong and he is stating I've not complied with the order. His email to the judge says our son has asthma and he shouldn't go away with me to Spain due to the heat. He doesn't have asthma and his dad is taking him to Portugal but no mention of this. He's banging on about me disrespecting the judge when what he really means is disrespecting him by not doing what I'm told.