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Babygirlmum · 11/07/2022 11:11

I need some advice, my baby dad left me back in September pregnant and told me he doesn't want anything to do with our baby and he does not want to be a dad he made this very clear and continued with this, I have since had my beautiful baby girl she is now 12 weeks old and I have been in contact with child maintenance as I thought it was only right he paid for his daughter since doing this over a week ago he has been in contact with me wanting to see the baby and asking to be a part of her life, I really want to know why it's taking him 12 weeks and a child maintenance letter to get in contact and all of a sudden he wants to be a part of her life after being very clear he wanted nothing to do with her he didn't want to be her dad he put me through loads of stress while pregnant didn't want our baby asked me to get a termination now all of a sudden want to be dad of the year. Any advice on this as I'm in brain freeze mode, also he hasn't really made an effort or tried to convince me he has changed I did for all of 5 minutes and then now I see his old traits again and I keep putting a barrier up he seems more interested in me and my life more than the baby and and then he claims it's because he doesn't have a bond with her yet so there is no emotional connection, I don't know what to think my emotions are swaying again.

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clpsmum · 12/07/2022 13:56

It's shot but your child is entitled to a relationship with her father. If I were you I would allow contact in the form of visits to your DC in your home with you present for an hour at a time on arranged dates. I imagine he will get fed up quickly. You never know though he may surprise you x

OurChristmasMiracle · 12/07/2022 14:04

My advice is continue with the claim for maintenance do not drop it. Only respond to questions about baby or general check in that your doing okay. Allow short regular contact as baby has a right to a relationship with their dad and go from there. You may find that he can’t be bothered after a while and was hoping that by “being involved” you would stop the maintenance claim

LIZS · 12/07/2022 14:10

He's hoping you will drop the claim if he says he wants to see her. Did you post previously? Is he on birth certificate, I assume not?

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