What would others do in my situation I’m a lone parent to 4 children, oldest has asd and adhd, I’m totally alone them their father has no contact and hasn’t in 18 months, I don’t have family help, I do have family but they refuse to help me in anyway and I would go as far as to say my mum seems to enjoy me struggling. Never had my kids not once. I never have a night off, oldest behaviour is very very challenging, she is 11 and has regular melt downs to the point I struggle taking her out in public, today she has a massive meltdown on the bus for no obvious reasons, she was screaming and jumping up and down, how am I meant to manage that alone? I do as I have no choice but some man on the bus was very nasty to us, I am worried about the future, my daughters behaviour isn’t getting easier it’s getting harder as now she’s older we get lots less sympathy and more judgement and nasty comments. I dress taking her out, I have no one to leave her with so have no choice she has to come everywhere with me, they all do, I’m not in a typical single parent situation as I often hear people say how easy it gets, how it gets easier once they are older but this will never be the case for me, so my question is what should I do? Do I reach out to ex and demands he steps up, he is her parent too, why am I left to deal with this all on my own. (I don’t want to contact ss too much bad experience with them in the past so not a route I want to go down)