Family issues

[Jkc1967]

Hi I’m new here I shall start by saying I was in care as a child and found my birth family 8 years ago well recently I went on face book chatted to someone I believed was my cousin it turned out to be my half brothers daughter well I’ve never heard about this bearing in mind I thought this person looked like me I am going into this blindly well this person seemed really nice didn’t mention who she was to me or anything well next thing I know I call my brother and he’s girlfriend lays into me this was 5 days ago now she said that you’ve caused so much trouble I hadn’t the conversation was very polite it turned out this girl was he’s daughter and also he’s ex wife butting into the conversation using her daughters account I felt like I’d been set up Well the next day my Aunt called me don’t upset my nephew I don’t know what you’ve done he’s in a right state and sharply said good bye honestly they won’t listen to me I’ve had enough of this family and I’m super confused as I said nothing wrong at all. Im
thinking of moving on with my life Moving away from them and forgetting them I saw a different side to them and they wouldn’t even listen to me
no matter how many times I apologise for something i
didn’t do please could
anyone advice me right now I’m getting radio silence from them xx

I think your idea of cutting contact and moving and starting afresh is a great idea tbh. This will be best for you in the long run. They sound vile. Sending hugs x

Hi clpsmum thanks for your reply the sad part is I’ve known them a few years and I get the impression that they were maybe waiting to find away to push me away even though they said they wouldn’t ever do that I spoke to my other half brother he said oh Aunty won’t speak to you for months I thought how childish is that?Im just living my life I’ve got
to think of my child’s future not just mine now I’ve lost how many times I apologised The Auntie said she don’t want to hear it I'm
now busy cleaning thru things I don’t need and slowly moving on with my life At the end of the day it’s there loss I’m
am used to being abandoned and rejected I have since I was put into care sadly this is normal to me and in a good way I can now
move on with no hassle at all thanks for your help sending hugs back x

That's horrible and please don't normalise being rejected it is not normal. It is their loss and they sound absolutely toxic tbh and you will be so much better without them. Make a fresh start and make new friends who are actually nice and appreciate you. You sound lovely. Where are you thinking of going? X

I’m not sure I just think further away the better to be honest it’s strange they turned on me without finding out the truth I think the ex is stirring trouble maybe jealousy I’m not sure tbh I just feel that a new start would make it better for my family I’m hoping
maybe one day they would regret not listening to me I am not sure I would wish to go to Scotland one day thanks for
your help again it’s appreciated take care x

I'm in Scotland so if you ever end up here give me a shout!

Thanks so much hun it will be nice to have a friend my ex family are still ghosting me it’s been five days now my half Bristol worried he’ll lose contact with he’s 40 something daughter he’s told her not to contact me I’m like whoever she’s a adult and he’s demanded she stop contact with me you know hun they have blown this completely out of proportion how can my talking to he’s daughter stop him seeing her they even blamed me that the stress I caused him I could make him have a heart attack what the hell sorry I’m still miffed off with them I’m just venting I hope you’re well thanks so much I hope we can become friends in definitely wanting to move to Scotland further away the better xx

Sorry half brother not Bristol x

stress I caused him I could cause him to have a heart attack x

Honestly you are better off without them tbh they sound toxic xx