Young single mum

[GlitterBear01]

I think I just need to rant?
So I'm a young a mummy, and I've received alll the lovely judgment that comes with that, and I'm also a single mum. I didn't plan on being a single mum, same old story of ex kept telling me he would change and that I was the love of his life and he wanted a family, all that. And then I fell pregnent (as intended) but when ex wouldn't change I left him during my pregnancy, not heard anything since. I got a few texts from his sister saying they'd 'help out' but that was it. I ignored that because I'm better off without ex when he's not changing tbh. But anyway, at the time I fell pregnant I thought I'd have ex to help me and I thought I'd have ex to talk to. But obviously I don't, it's just me and my baby and it's hard, I feel like I have nobody to talk to because everybody is judgemental and they can't empathise what it's like in my position. I'm really lonely and I can't make friends irl because I'm worried about covid, and I know everybody is going to tell that life is back to normal now but it's not for me, I won't go into it, but I can't risk my baby catching covid.

Hi I am an old single mum so get where you're coming from although I'm further down the line than you. Firstly look at this as his loss and his families loss. They are disgusting tbh if they don't want anything to do with you that's fine but they shouldn't ignore their grandchild/niece or nephew etc. my exdps family did the same.

Do you have family close by you can turn to? Get yourself into some single mum groups on Facebook so you can chat to others in a similar situation. And I know you don't want to hear it but life has gone back to normal now you can still be cautious but don't shut yourself away from the world. Parent baby/toddler groups are a great place to meet new people

Do you suffer from anxiety or feel uncomfortable in crowds of people? If so, have you spoken to anyone about it?

Do you have any friends or family of your own?

How old is your baby? What makes you think your baby will catch covid? I worked on a covid ward... and occasionally I still come into contact with positive covid patients in my line of work. Single mum too so in the pandemic it meant lots of juggling and my DS was never once caught covid and still hasn't.

Long time since I was young but I know locally some mums have organised a strollers group where they meet up with or without children and go for a walk and maybe have coffee/tea after. May be worth checking on your local FB if anything similar is available.

What judgement? All I ever got was massive praise. Who is this judgement from? Are you perceiving it or have people said things?

You've had a child and are caring for them. There is nothing to judge. Carry on. Enjoy your baby and focus on being the best mum you can be.

I have been a care woker thoughout the pandemic, I've looked after many covid patients and I've not cought covid because I am careful. But obviously, this is very different from takeing a baby outside into very public/social areas, my baby can't wear a mask and most people do not wear masks.

You are very lucky to have received so much praise. No I've not simply been perceiving it certain people have said nasty thing. Yes I do it ignore it and carry on, my point was that I can't talk to these people when I should be able do. Thank you for saying there is nothing to judge.

Thank you, yeah that's a good idea l'll get my FB back and have a look. Hopefully they'll be some people that can relate to me/that are my age and everything.