Help me decide please ..pipe dream or sensible move.

[Yorkshireteabags]

Ok. Ive been thru hell and back last 5 years. Abusive husband and dad. Financial court etc etc. Im now allowed to sell the house me and the kids live in.

Do we stay:
Fabulous area
Kids friends and school
Support from local mums.
House too big and in disrepair.
Im struggling with well paid job due to mental health.
I have chronic illness and no family.

Do we go.
Debt free
If i sell i can go mortgage free. Get a less stressful job/less hours.
Move near to beach but not as "posh" area.
Ill have money to invest/savings for the first time in forever/ can afford new car.
I dont know if i think the grass is greener and all that, or if maybe i need a change.

Smaller house, easier to manage with my health
Wont know anyone apart from my best friend.

How old are the kids

Sorry should have said. Oldest 10... starting senior school sep. Youngest 7. Starting junior school sep

Move. Your mental health is so important and will make the highest difference to your kids. If it doesn’t work out, you can always move to a smaller house in your current area

I must admit. I feel like ive just been existing these last few years

I’d go for second option and have security, more time with D.C. and less stress

but I’d make it a purpose to I tergrate and make friends, using school, meetups app, etc

I would go

no doubt.

I’d go for option two.

Thank you for the replies, id really like to live more in the now for my kids sake.

i would - research - house prices, schools and base your decision on facts - an informed decision would be a plan - however a ‘fuck it’ approach it always worth a go!!

Is there a middle ground? Stay in the fabulous area with the support network, but get a smaller house that doesnt need the work? Or does that not drop the price enough to get debt free?
Dont under estimate the benifit of the support network, but your mental health comes top.

If the schools were great in the cheaper area I would be tempted to move

Schools better than the school my oldest has been allocated. Very large school and needs improvement. Most from het school go to private schools. I have looked for cheaper in area and its prob a flat it i even get a chance at an offer

I would probably move then, especially if most of her friends won’t be going to the same school.

Move. Peace of mind. And mental well being is worth so much more. Having a good quality of life will benefit you all.

Move. Being mortgage free will give you so much choice in life.

I think it makes sense to move as long as you know you'll get another job at a similar wage. Would it be possible to carry on with your job working from home?

Move. A smaller house near the beach, no mortgage, decent car. All good.

Definitely move ,second option

Definitely move. You have your best friend and will make new mum friends. Dc will make new friends. Sounds like a no brainier.

Thank you. I think the better schools and debt free are weighing as much more important than the links we have here.

Yeah I could carry on with my current job for now. But its stressful and im stuck with a large mortgage. The debt free plan will allow me a (hopefully) less stressful job albeit with a wage cut.