So walking home from school and XP waves at me from his window

[nutcracker]

And I don't bloody like it.

For anyone that doesn't know, he moved into his new flat on Sat, and it is literally the block behind my house.

I'm not liking it, I don't want him to be within waving distance of me or my life.

Obviously for the kids sake I will just have to put up with it, but ffs.

Oh and, he keeps sending me friendly txt messages, like jokes, or silly bits and bobs of info, like I give a toss. It's like texts I would send to a friend. He isn't my friend.

Did you wave back?? Full hand or two fingers?

ROFL

No, actually he then gestured at me to hang on and came out to speak to me about his electrics

I just hate knowing he is so nearby.

send one back saying "i get these textxs from my friends, you are the father to my children and not a friend so stop sending them."

"oh and don't wave at me eitjer"

tgat should do the trick....

Eek. Mine used to do that too...crappy circular emails and bad, bad jokes by text.

And things about people I had never met nor heard of, like some of his friends were having a baby, as if I cared

One time he sent me an email saying mumps was going round, which was just ridiculous as it wasn't any more than it usually is and for some reason imparting this information made him feel important though I could not do anything about it anyway and ds had had his MMR.

In the end I changed my mobile number and 'forgot' to tell him, and ignored the ridiculous emails and next time I spoke to him, he was like 'did you get my emails?' and I just acted very surprised and asked him if he hadn't received the joint mail I sent to everyone about my new email address. Of course he hadn't, because therewas no new email address

w*nker. My stress levels were reduced massively once I wasn't jumpy every time the phone/inbox went beep.

I really feel for you xx

Wear sunglasses at all times.

You will look glam and aloof, and he won't be able to tell if you are looking at him or not.

And never reply to his texts.

I don't reply to his texts, and when he asks me if I got them, I just say yeah.

I feel like I want to move as far away as possible.

He keeps hinting at me to go and give him some advice on what to do with the flat as some of the rooms need painting etc.

Like hell I will.

I wish he would just understand that other than child related stuff, we have nothing that I want to talk about.

Nutcracker, is there any way you could move far away?

If not I guess you'll have to get used to him being nearby. How do the kids feel about it?

Not really no FA. I could get transferred but the kids are so pleased that he is so close, and plus I rely on my mum (who lives in same block as xp) for support.

If I could drive then i'd seriously consider it.

How about ignoring him?

Well I could but that will just cause a row won't it.

I will just have to put up with it I think.

I would hate it myself so I get exactly how you feel, but if faced with no other option then paerhaps find a way to disentangle your feelings and separate the stuff you really want to keep private, ie build a very high wall inside your head, round those things, and then the stuff outside the wall you might be able to let up with a bit - like allowing yourself to take the good aspects of him (Ok not many but hey ) and survive it that way - ride it if you like.

It's hard because one survival tactic is to accustom yourself to him, but at the same time you are wary of trusting him or letting him through to you again as you are not in a relationship any more and never want to be.

Very selfish of him to put you through this but it sounds like he didn't intend it that way - possibly? Do you know his motive for moving so close?

At least he is being pleasant, if nothing else...icky as it is.

He was living in a bedsit before and was told that the HA were accepting applications for the 1 bed flats and so he applied.

He said he wants to be closer to help me out more and see the kids more, but without meaning to sound bigheaded, he still wants to be close to me, I can just tell.

He still tries to kiss me goodbye everytime he leaves and when I move back he says 'fgs, can't i even touch you now'.

Like i said, he still treats me like I am part of his life in another way than just being mum to his kids. It is hard to explain but he just acts like I am still his, and I find it creepy.

I would find it creepy too. I'm not sure what to suggest - unless you can find a nice big muscly boyfriend who would 'have a word'

LOL, I wish

My exH sent me one of those circular e.mails warning woman about getting into your car then getting out to see what is stuck to the window. Then he sent an e.mail canceling the first. Oh feck off its bollocks and I am not interested.

when he was still H he used to send me thos jokes by text, I think he learned then that I can't be fecking arsed with them.

I am glad I don't know here exH lives, I might feel hte urge to do his windows in .

Isnt it better to be amicable for the childrens sake then be ripping the sh1t out of each other ? you might find that its creepy what he is doing but maybe he has moved on and is wanting things be nice between you !!

Just wave sweetly back at him whilst muttering "cunt" under your breath

lol, or shout out cant understand not today

Oh i definatly do want to be amicable for the kids sakes, and have no problem discussing anything related to the kids with him whenever he likes, but it's not the kids he is interested in.

I am just going to ignore him as much as poss I think.

is he in denial that you have broken up do you think?