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Dad gone AWOL

6 replies

Spicedownyourlife · 24/05/2022 13:07

It's been over 3 months since my ex picked our little boy up from school, took him out for the evening brought him back and said goodbye....not seen him since! Usually it's EOW unless he made an excuse he couldn't see him (which was often) he told me he had to work away for abit and won't be able to see son, but this isn't the case, it's been 3 months and he has been going to his normal job and doing the things he does everyday half an hour away from us. No text, no asking about son, no calls nothing. I haven't text him because to him, as far as I'm aware he is away in another country!

Son is 4 and hasent asked for his dad in two weeks, I try not to mention him at all, father's Day is coming up and I do t know what to do .....I'm not sure if dad is going to pop up back in son's life just for that day then go again....should I let him if he asks?? I haven't mentioned to school yet about his dad being away, but I think I will this week as I suppose they will be making cards pretty soon and I don't want son to get upset.

Should I talk to son about his dad? Or just not mention him in the hope he will forget....that sounds awful but I just don't want son to get mixed signals, his dad is untrustworthy, and a liar, constantly liying, do I want that in my son's life?

When he did go to his dad's it was always his granny and grandad looking after him whilst dad went out! They haven't been in touch either. They aren't the best role models for my son anyway.

Not sure what to do.

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Sova · 24/05/2022 14:11

Is there any scope in ringing him at work and asking him what and why he is doing? That’s probably what I would do. Is he paying child maintenance?

CorneliaStreet42 · 24/05/2022 14:13

My first thought is if dad is 'working away' are you sure he's not in prison?

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 24/05/2022 14:16

Is he paying child maintenance?

Spicedownyourlife · 24/05/2022 18:51

Hi all, thanks for the replies. Definitely not in prison as he has been seen out and about in the pub, playing football matches ect....

Child maintenance comes straight from his wage as he refused to answer the calls or letters so it had to be done the hard way but yes, that is now regular thankfully...

He has always been a compulsive liar, one of the reasons I walked away in the end.

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ItsDinah · 24/05/2022 21:29

I wouldn't discuss it with your son. If he makes a card at school, admire it and help him post it to Daddy.

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 24/05/2022 22:19

He is paying maintenance and is a jackass. Honestly, i wouldnt poke the bear. Enjoy him not being involved.

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