I desperately need some perspective. My husband and I have applied for a divorce. He will be going to live in SOuth Africa and I will continue to live in the UK with the kids. We have made a financial agreement but childcare is not so easy. He wants the kids to go to South Africa every other Christmas and Easter and for EVERY February half term. Now, I wanted to keep things civil so didn't decide to consult a lawyer for the sake of peace but I am now feeling that this arrangement is unsustainable. The kids will essentially be travelling to SA twice a year and one of those times will be for 1 week only. He is also proposing to travel to the UK to see them every 6 weeks. I find this really irritating as why does he get to have all the fun and see them on holidays when I am doing the day to day hard graft?!
My question is, if I go down the route of solicitors and pursue a childcare order, am I likely to lose more time with my children? Could then potentially say that this is totally sustainable and I should shut up? In reality, I should be grateful I get to see the children more than he does but the reality of going abroad twice a year is just not something I want them to have to do. Am I being ureasonable? THank you