How am I going to meet any one else?

[mumofthreeox]

So me and the childrens father are no longer together, officially about 6 months but emotionally I cut off from it a long time ago.

Although having three kids to keep me occupied- I feel lonely, like I'm ready to have that male attention again - I was unhappy for so long with BD that I crave that happiness again.

But with three kids and studying where am I gonna get time to even meet anyone else 🙈 I was with him
For 10 years so wouldn't even know where to start - im 30 years old (new decade, new start 😊)

Anyone else felt like this x

I’ve been single for 5 years as my ex isn’t involved so I have no break from my kids to actually meet someone so I’ve been unable to, I’m taking it your ex is involved? Can you meet someone then when they are at his house?

I don't have the time and energy to date. Ime it's a waste of time and energy! Anyhow the red flags start to appear 6 weeks in and by then you've spent money and semi invested in a creep.

He's an alcoholic, so only sees them when they go to his mums as I can't even trust him to have in his own,

His mum would have the kids but then I have a small circle of friends are who mums in relationships who have no time to go out and be my wing women lol x

It's not easy. My two are a bit older now so I can go out for a few hours here and there. Although not got past six weeks or so. So I've no idea how it would work beyond that

Do you have time free in the week. I work 4 days so gives me a day to do things I need to do.

It's good his mum is involved. At least you know the children are being taken care of. Use this time for yourself.

I find on line dating useful as meeting real live people is very limited for me. So at least I can sit in my pjs and weed out the odd balls. But you need a thick skin and firm boundaries.

Yeah was thinking about giving the online dating a go - any suggestions? X

Online dating?

I met my 2nd DH at work (well I already knew him at work) when my dcs were small - but they spend 2 nights a week with their dad so I had plenty of free evenings.

I met my current DP (2nd DH died) online dating, but again had 2 free evenings a week.

I just used the free sites, POF, Tinder, Bumble, Match. But tbh the same people were on pretty much all of them.

All the men are on the same ones so don’t worry about which app to use trust me from single friends they are all on the same apps! I looked at tinder personally (Just browsing!) as didn’t like bumble (woman has to make first move)