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Feeling sad

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PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 23:24

Feeling so guilty. I’m a single mum and my ex doesn’t see our children at all (fully his choice) I have no family (well not in contact with them) and no real friends, it’s my daughters birthday on Monday and I just feel so bad that they have no one, just me, no presents from anyone, no one coming to my daughters birthday (she even mentioned the fact that no one ever comes) I just feel like I’ve let them down by not having anyone in our lives, I try to make the day feel special but it just feels sad that no one else cares about them. It’s so bad I feel like contacting my ex even though he doesn’t want to see them just so they can have someone in their lives other than me, I did try to make friends at the school but just didn’t gel with anyone and now I do a different pick up time so don’t see anyone anymore, which doesn’t make a difference really as I found it hard to get in with the other mums. I feel bad that I have no family that care about my children, even taking them out on Monday I’m dreading it as feel like a loner and think if anyone knows it’s my daughter birthday and I’m on my own they will know I have no one (I know that sounds silly 😔)

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AskingforaBaskin · 30/04/2022 23:26

Are your children in school? Is there a class chat or Facebook group you could post on inviting some around?

PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 23:28

AskingforaBaskin · 30/04/2022 23:26

Are your children in school? Is there a class chat or Facebook group you could post on inviting some around?

Yes they are in school but I’m not friends with the other parents, just didn’t gel with anyone nothing more than a quick hello anyway, unaware of any groups, looked on Facebook a while back but there was no groups for the school

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AskingforaBaskin · 30/04/2022 23:31

I'm not friends with any of the mums but if you can get through superficial chit chat then I'd set up more play dates.

Our ones are school name and year 1 etc they are set up by parents. Do you have a local soft play? Could you do a day out there so they can make day friends?

Whoatealltheminieggs · 30/04/2022 23:34

I’m afraid you’re going to have to swallow your pride and put yourself out there with the parents at school. I’ve literally just written a post about his lonely I am with no friends but my dc does have friends. I ask a lot for play dates and the mums drop them off or I take them places. Do you have any of the mums contact details you could ask if any of them want to come on Monday?

PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 23:42

Whoatealltheminieggs · 30/04/2022 23:34

I’m afraid you’re going to have to swallow your pride and put yourself out there with the parents at school. I’ve literally just written a post about his lonely I am with no friends but my dc does have friends. I ask a lot for play dates and the mums drop them off or I take them places. Do you have any of the mums contact details you could ask if any of them want to come on Monday?

They do have friends I’m just not friends with the mums 🤷‍♀️ I don’t see them now as I do a different pick up to the other parents now so not sure how I’m meant to change that and no I have no ones details

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PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 23:44

AskingforaBaskin · 30/04/2022 23:31

I'm not friends with any of the mums but if you can get through superficial chit chat then I'd set up more play dates.

Our ones are school name and year 1 etc they are set up by parents. Do you have a local soft play? Could you do a day out there so they can make day friends?

We are going to soft play, I chat to a couple of mums as in hi/bye but those are the ones my kids aren’t friends with their kids so we don’t do play dates

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AskingforaBaskin · 30/04/2022 23:45

Go to whomever does collect them when you are there and ask that they pass on your details as you'd love to arrange a play date

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