Organising the school holidays

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Since we split, my XH has not shown much interest in having the DC in the school holidays - he tried a bit harder at Easter (he had them one day) but otherwise nothing more than EOW and a night in the week. He's currently "offering" to do more (supposedly at the request of the DC) but I think that's only because the divorce is coming up and he'll want to look like an active parent.

I need to get organised for the six week holiday so that I can still work - should I book up the activities (summer club and a holiday week with me) that I want and then tell him what weeks are left, or should I ask him what he wants to do before booking anything?

I'm tempted to do the first (our marriage ended because he was abusive so I don't see why I should consider him before I look after my own needs), but I don't want him to be able to say (to a court for example) that I was inflexible.

Your thoughts gratefully received.

I don't consider my ex-h in any holiday plans. He has our dc ( age 13 and 10 ) just one evening a week despite living only 30 seconds away across the road! He may occasionally see them at a weekend IF it suits him. He never offers any help with school holidays. He will then text, again when it suits him, to say he wants to have them on certain days in the holidays etc ( ie if it's nice and sunny and him and his new partner want company for her son also..) it's a pain to say the least.

I'm another one who has covered all the school holidays for the past 5 years. Ex is with a new gf and has step up his eow and been a lot more consistent. And offered to cover some of the easer break. I said he could have the first week. He offered one day then couldn't get the day off.

Anyway.

I would ask him what dates he has booked during the six weeks. Send him an e mail. School breaks up on x and back on y. Please inform what dates you are available for the children. I need to know by z date. (Maybe the Monday after half term). I will then need to be booking child care that week to ensure we have a place.

Going through similar myself OP but I don't have the overnight stay during the week... currently fighting for that.

Send your ex the school yearly calendar firstly. Realistically you need to consider is he a reasonable person to comitt to school holidays? Does he job allow this?

Personally I would get a legal binding agreement and commicate VIA Email.

I think it's easier for the dads to do 1 week at Easter hols 1 week at Christmas 3 weeks in summer for example.