Hey, I just need advice I’m so conflicted I have a big conscience so rubbish at standing up for myself.
Me and my ex split a year ago and we have since sold out house and I’ve been lucky enough to buy a new place. I work part time around childcare and the dad id supposed to have child every Friday night till Sunday night, and I get one Saturday a month although this year has been a mess and I’ve had child more weekends and had to take unpaid dependency.
Right now we are perfectly fine the only issue is maintenance. I don’t want to go to cps because it know they will take a lot. I’ve seen on a 20k job I could get £150 per month but he earns more than this. Issue is he only wants to pay £50 a month stating he can’t afford it. He would rather me Ask when I’m getting something for her and he will send but I don’t want to chase for money.
If he won’t pay would you just go to cps? Trying not to rock the boat but I need to get this moving I’ve been trying to sort this out for months
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NML2000 · 24/04/2022 19:46
NML2000 · 03/05/2022 20:35
I have told my ex I am going to have to go through proper channels as he refuses to pay the amount I would of been happy with. He’s said he would pay £50 a month and then i can have him for more whenever I want if I need it because he wants to know what I’m spending and I’ve told him that’s not happening. We’re not together he doesn’t get to watch what I spend. It’s gotten to the point I’m now being hounded by txt and him threatening to take me to court and appeal it and everything which has really upset me. I’m still going ahead I want to make sure my child comes first and if I have to deal with his temper I’ll have to do that
NML2000 · 03/05/2022 20:35
I have told my ex I am going to have to go through proper channels as he refuses to pay the amount I would of been happy with. He’s said he would pay £50 a month and then i can have him for more whenever I want if I need it because he wants to know what I’m spending and I’ve told him that’s not happening. We’re not together he doesn’t get to watch what I spend. It’s gotten to the point I’m now being hounded by txt and him threatening to take me to court and appeal it and everything which has really upset me. I’m still going ahead I want to make sure my child comes first and if I have to deal with his temper I’ll have to do that
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