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thisisme2014 · 23/04/2022 09:50

Hi all, looking for some help or wise words if possible!

my ex and I have had 50/50 shared care of our DS for three years.

I haven’t claimed maintenance due to this, he would pay for anything, such as wrap around care and clubs, falling on his days

However he has recently stopped this so I’m footing the bill for all wrap around care along will all additional clubs DS does (-admittedly these fall on the days DS is with me)

I know I can’t get maintenance but does anyone know of anythjng I can do? I don’t mind the clubs so much but I’m paying for ex’s wrap around care too!

any help advice or being told I should be paying this welcome!

Thanks All!

Me x

OP posts:
unicornsarereal72 · 24/04/2022 18:31

Can you not ask them to send him his bill directly?

Ylvamoon · 24/04/2022 18:34

Cancel the days DS is at his dads?

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thisisme2014 · 24/04/2022 19:43

Thanks both!

the school only have one account per child and it’s in my name unfortunately.

If I cancelled and DS was dropped off he was turned away I’d worry it would cause him upset!

It’s my own fault for being scared to bring it up.

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blublub · 25/04/2022 18:24

You need to talk to your school. Explain situation and only pay for your days.

Countdownis35 · 25/04/2022 18:32

Have a conversation OP? Find out why your ex has stopped paying?

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thisisme2014 · 25/04/2022 19:05

I spoke to the school who can’t bill separate apparently!

I will speak to him but I know how angry he can get! Wish me luck abs thank you

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blublub · 25/04/2022 19:14

I have literally never heard of this. Go to speak to the head. Explain you will be paying for your days. Only arrange with after school for your days. You are NOT responsible for his days.

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thisisme2014 · 25/04/2022 19:14

I spoke to the school who can’t bill separate apparently!

I will speak to him but I know how angry he can get! Wish me luck and thank you

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Fridgeorflight · 25/04/2022 19:54

Have you actually spoken to the head of the school? Quite often they can fix things that the office staff can't fix.

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thisisme2014 · 25/04/2022 20:28

No actually I haven’t!
I will do that tomorrow! I didn’t want to push it with the office lady! I didn’t want to make an issue! I know I’m a bit of a push over!

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thisisme2014 · 25/04/2022 20:29

She’s a lovely head so I’ll try abs have a word tomorrow! Thank you!

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SD1978 · 25/04/2022 20:32

Explain there is a history of DV- which if he is shouting at you, and makes you afraid, there is, and that the billing has to be done separately as there is now financial abuse also a you are having to oak for his care. I can't believe any reasonable organisation is going to tell you there is nothing they can do

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