Am I over reacting

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I'm 37 weeks pregnant I have two children of my own 6 and 8. They have always had a routine and 7.30 is bedtime. It's half term so tv etc off at 8. They had a sleepover at nanny's last night and went to bed at 9.30 so today are tired.

My bf has two children 4 and 10. The 10 year old is very cheeky towards me doesn't listen to her dad and when she stays she stays up until midnight and keeps my children up.

Tonight we only have his youngest staying for the weekend, he has been screaming for his own way and biting my children all afternoon. Obviously I told him off as my bf doesn't discipline at all and it caused arguments.

Anyway tonight the three children had dinner played outside watched a film ready for 8 turn off. Bf comes in and says they are watching another film because his 4 year old doesn't have no routine and stays up until he wants to go to bed. My kids are dropping and the tv is on in there bedroom and his child is playing with the toys and jumping on my youngest. I just feel like I can't cope with it anymore or the fact of when the baby comes it disturbing another routine. I've listened to his child scream for hours if he doesn't have his own way and now my bf has come into my house and gone against my parenting and routine to suit his child so tomorrow when again I am tired and dealing with 3 overtired children he will let his child have a 'nap' for 2 hours + or I have to deal with the three kids whilst he sits playing games on his phone.

Am I over reacting? I don't want his kids staying in my house anymore he's moved in this weekend ready for the baby and I already want him to move out.

I’d agree a routine and structure and if he isn’t happy with that, ask him to move out.

What a disaster. Stop inflicting these horribly behaved kids onto your children. I think you need to be prepared for this relationship to be over. He sounds like an absolutely useless father and I would turf him out immediately.

This is exactly how I feel but had to question was it me, hormones over reacting or am I to strict.

It's getting me down been like this for the last year and I am really sick of dealing with it. I told him tonight he has no parenting skills his kids rule him. It's just little things like my children have breakfast at the table I tell them no to biscuits and things before breakfast but he gives his so mine obviously moan. Tonight when I said bed he kept his son downstairs to draw, always going against me. I drove out of my way to get his child an Easter egg because he forgot and the child is screaming whilst I'm driving putting me off. I can't imagine when the baby is here I can't live like this. Maybe I am strict but it's what my kids have known from birth so it really hits them when it's disturbed.
His sons mother is a drug user so he doesn't have any routine what's so ever he is a lost soul which is sad for the little boy really, he doesn't eat properly as in a meal only eats bread and butter/biscuits which is difficult but my bfs father constantly has the son and does as the son (4) wants. So he wants to go to bed at 11 he can he wants a nap for 3 hours in the afternoon he can. I am determined tomorrow that his son will not be having a nap and will spend the day how my children will be feeling and if it causes arguments he can take his child and his stuff and get gone.

Are you having a child with him now

Why are you having a baby with someone who you know is such a shitty parent!?

I split up with him for most of this pregnancy and I thought now maybe it's just me over reacting. But he is a shit parent and I always tell him he has no discipline or control over his kids but there we are suppose I've made a rod for my own back.

You've made a rod for your own back, and now you're beating your kids with it. Get this waste of space away from your children.

He needs to move back out.
Tomorrow..
Or you are failing your dc. All of them.

Your boundaries are way off. I’m not sure how you’ve come to a place where there’s a child in your house repeatedly biting your child? You know that’s not okay right? Why are you considering your reaction to this is caused by pregnancy hormones?

He’s a fucking useless man. If his ex is a drug user why’s he not applied to have his kids full time?

How are you going to protect your baby if he’s got contact along with his older two?

I’d dump him, change the locks and move away. You have one job - to protect your young vulnerable children.

Who's brilliant idea was it to introduce another child into all of this?
IMHO you need to get him to move back out and come to some agreement on how all the kids are going to parenting - this isn't working and it's not going to work unless something changes and you're going to have to agree that - if you can't you are just going to encounter a lot of problems - conflict with each other and with all of the children. If you're going to have kids you need to know how to behave like an adult. Honestly - if you agree together on how everything might work - it will be better for al of you especially the kids - kids IMHO actually feel safer when they have boundaries set.

Don't co register the baby and give him prr. That will ruin your life!

You will have to send your child to his for contacts where he will undermine all your good parenting.

It will be impossible.

Run, run run.

My children are an absolute dream well behaved know right from wrong have routine and are thriving happy girls. The problem is his. I did not allow his child to bite mine he was told off and that's when it caused arguments between me and his father. Because I would not allow it. I will speak to him tomorrow as I am not putting up with this. I just came here to reassure that it wasn't me over reacting and if I had handled it correctly. He moved back in to help with the baby and after tonight I would rather do it on my own again. Thanks anyway for the replies