Me and my ex both work fulll time. We share weekends with her, so we both get a day and a night with her. She stays with me during the week, because of routine and she needs stability. And also, during rush hour it can take nearly an hour to get back to his from
Nursery. Whereas I live five minutes Away. My ex pays basic CMP and nothing towards the nursery.
The only time I've asked for his help, is to come to mine on a Wednesday morning at 6.30am, so I can go to work in London and get the early train. Meaning I get home to pick her up at 4.30pm instead of 6.30pm. He is now saying he doesn't want to do that and wants to take her on Tuesday night and drop her off on Wednesday morning. His work is unpredictable. He can work away from home and stay at jobs late...and so there won't be consistency in this and he'll expect me to work around him. I also don't think it's fair for an 18 month old to travel so much to nursery. I've also only just got her consistently sleeping well and in a good routine (she has zero routine at his, which I don't complain about as it's his time with her)! I've put my foot down and said she is to stay with me during the week. AIBU to say this? She's so little and is at nursery full time and I genuinely thinks she needs the weekday routine. I feel his requests are always about what he wants and not what's best for my LG!