Advice needed on children's dad and contact

[Justmeand3]

I have 3 children with 2 dad's.
Neither dad see their children, but my question is about my youngest's dad ...

Basically he hasent seen our daughter for 6 weeks, it use to be EOW however he told me that he had to work away.....and that was the last time we saw him. However he isn't working away, he's still been doing the same things he does, going to work, playing football with the team he captains locally and playing his Xbox all day when not in work ( I only know this cause a mutual friend is 'online' friends with him and he sees when he appears online) and I know that it's him and not anyone else using his Xbox. My little girl asks about when is she going to see daddy again and I just say he is busy working...

I don't know what else to say ...I don't want to contact him really and ask what he's up to because I don't want to force it....he should want to see his daughter. He is a compulsive liar, one of the main reasons we separated a couple years ago....and I don't want my daughter to be in that situation but at the same time she needs a dad in her life. I've noticed recently she is becoming attached to my friends male partners and I'm wondering if she's craving that male figure in her life cause I don't have a partner and don't particularly want one anytime soon.

I'm going to contact families need father's this week but wanted to see if anyone here could help?? Thank you for reading.

What’s families need fathers? Never heard of them? You can’t force someone to be a dad my ex hasn’t seen our children in 18m

It's an organisation that gives support and advice on families going through separation/divorce who need help with contact.
They offer advice to any one from dad's, mum's and grandparents...

Your ex could be working away and simply have taken his xbox with him so he's appear online as normal.

He definitely isn't working away...where he said he was working away he would have no means of using his Xbox, in another country. He's been seen playing football locally today!

Is it out of character? Was he always consistent before? Or did he usually mess around with contact

You can't force anyone to step up and parent. It is better for your daughter to know that now at a young age he can not be depended upon

Show her as a strong women you are capable of Being independent

I you have brothers are your parents who can be involved as the role model.

Neither of my children missed the father figure at all. But I have a big family. My mum and her husband are local and I have brothers we see from time to time.

They need to rename that organisation. It should be Families Need GOOD Fathers. Sadly many have useless ones, like your ex.

Seriously though I always thought Families Need Fathers was one of those male centered misogynistic arsehole groups. I didn't think women went to them for help.

You can't make him see his daughter and he doesn't sound like he would be an asset to her.

Maybe just text him and say 'DD has been missing you. Shall we set a date/time for our next contact please?'

He's a crap dad, that's the top and bottom of it.

You could try and take him to court, but no judge can/will force a dad to have contact.

Perhaps worth giving mediation a go. And get some counselling for your dc.