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Husband went back to bed while I waited for ambulance for son

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Tomandwillow2008 · 06/04/2022 23:56

I am about to become a single parent to three under 12’s. I cannot live with my husband/their father any longer. We do not communicate and he seems to actually have a real dislike of his own children. I won’t go into too much detail but the low point a few days ago was when my son woke up struggling to breathe and I had to call an ambulance. He showed no concern save he had been woken up and left me to sit up alone with son until ambulance arrived

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movingoranges · 07/04/2022 00:01

Sending a big virtual hug and a hand hold you've got this

BlackAndPinkNose · 07/04/2022 00:03

God that's really shit of him. Hope you and your child are ok

givethatbabyaname · 07/04/2022 00:07

That’s terrible. It’s quite extreme to show that level of lack of care or interest in someone, let alone a child, let alone your own child. Is he quite right? Whether or not he is won’t change anything for you or your children. But an understanding of the situation could help down the line.

I’m so sorry for you. Stressful, lonely, sad and heartbreaking situation.

dane8 · 07/04/2022 00:10

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Lochjeda · 07/04/2022 00:13

That is not a normal emotional response at all. Most people would show more empathy than that to a child who was a total stranger, never mind their own child.

I hope you and your son are okay, you definitely are doing the right thing.

Babadook76 · 07/04/2022 00:15

Are you serious? My oh and I were practically fighting each other when our ds had to go to hospital with a suspected broken elbow during lockdown, only one parent was allowed in and neither of us wanted to leave him. We ended up having to ask ds if he wanted mummy or daddy to take him, he chose oh who was happy to wait the 6 hours it took to get seen to. I’d actually get not wanting to go to hospital, but what an absolute prick to go back to bed while his child is getting blue lighted to a and e unable to breathe!

GreenLunchBox · 07/04/2022 00:17

Is there more to this story?

SpringsSprung · 07/04/2022 00:31

@Tomandwillow2008

Just to gain a wider picture/context, did he go back to bed before you called an ambulance? Did he realise the situation was critical? NOT trying to find excuses, just working out the extent of it I suppose. Either way, I'd be worried he was a sociopath or something. Ice cold.

What was he like when they were babies? Was he emotional at the birth?

CockSpadget · 07/04/2022 00:47

Wow! Hope your son is ok now.
That really is unforgivable. My dad did similar when I was 5 and severely scalded in the kitchen at home, he sat on the sofa reading the paper while my mum was panic stricken waiting for her brother to arrive to take me to hospital. They were divorced the following year, and he pissed off abroad.
Is he having any mental problems or just a genuinely uncaring twat?

SpringsSprung · 07/04/2022 09:28

@CockSpadget

Wow! Hope your son is ok now. That really is unforgivable. My dad did similar when I was 5 and severely scalded in the kitchen at home, he sat on the sofa reading the paper while my mum was panic stricken waiting for her brother to arrive to take me to hospital. They were divorced the following year, and he pissed off abroad. Is he having any mental problems or just a genuinely uncaring twat?

Bloody hell. Did you ever speak to him again?

alexio · 07/04/2022 09:55

Ffs I hope your son is doing okay 💝
This would be the straw the breaks the camels back for me

Stay strong and seek help where you can

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/04/2022 09:56

What an evil man

CockSpadget · 07/04/2022 11:11

@SpringsSprung didn't hear from him till he moved back to the U.K. in my mid teens. He rang me so saw him a few times, I'd get my hopes up that he was going to try and be part of my life, then he'd just go off radar for a few years. That happened a few times (I would get a phone call or letter from him out of the blue) until I finally decided enough was enough and didn't pass on my new contact details when I moved so he couldn't find me.

Babadook76 · 07/04/2022 12:23

How’s your son op?

SpringsSprung · 07/04/2022 14:19

[quote CockSpadget]@SpringsSprung didn't hear from him till he moved back to the U.K. in my mid teens. He rang me so saw him a few times, I'd get my hopes up that he was going to try and be part of my life, then he'd just go off radar for a few years. That happened a few times (I would get a phone call or letter from him out of the blue) until I finally decided enough was enough and didn't pass on my new contact details when I moved so he couldn't find me. [/quote]
🧡 I don't blame you. I'm sorry you went through that

My DD's 'Dad' walked away from her when she was 1. No contact, changed his number. Gone. She's now 7 and asking where her Daddy is

Piemam · 07/04/2022 14:38

@Tomandwillow2008, hope your kid is alright. That sounds terrifying, and awful to be so let down in your time of need. Get rid of the useless husband, in time you can thrive as a new unit, your kids and you.

Trinacham · 07/04/2022 14:53

As PP asked.. I wonder if he isn't quite 'right'? That isn't a normal response, as we all know. Is there more to this? I'm hoping so! Poor you and you're poor boy.

Trinacham · 07/04/2022 14:53

Your* oops

KELLOGSspeck · 07/04/2022 15:15

This is shocking. I hope you follow through and leave. How is your Son now OP and yourself?

HollowTalk · 07/04/2022 15:24

What a terrible way for him to respond. I'm so glad you're separating. I wouldn't feel safe leaving your DC with him even on visits.

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