Ex has left me pregnant

[Babygirlmum]

Has anybody ever had their partner leave them while pregnant and not want to be a dad to his baby and apparently not be ready and not want to be there and then when baby is born they want to know or they want to see the baby? I am due to give birth any minute and my ex partner left me when I was 11 weeks pregnant he got scared and basically ran a mile but he did not deal with it very well, he doesn't want to be a dad to our baby but now I'm worried incase he comes back and wants to see the baby after everything he's said to me over my pregnancy and about my unborn baby, I have been through a lot this pregnancy and dealt with so much and for me to get over all this alone without him has been a challenge he tried to come back to me a couple of weeks ago but again said he still doesn't want the baby he just misses me and still loves me basically after leaving me while pregnant, he is very influenced by his mum I feel as though she may have a lot to do with his decision as he listens to her a lot however she looks at my social media all the time witch makes no sense to a family that don't want to know their grandchild and child? Does anybody have any similar experiences, I was heart broken at first but I am ok.

Yes my ex left when I was pregnant “baby” will be 5 soon. He has seen her about 4 times but that’s it other than that he has not had anything to do with her.

Been here-lock your social media down-block them and lock your privacy right down
Get as many people round you for support
Don’t let them dictate to you-your baby,your rules-they don’t get to gawp from afar

Good luck

1st child’s dad was completely honest and didn’t want anything to do with the child. His choice. Just as it was my choice to have the baby. Not a nice place to be in. But my eldest is now an adult and hasn’t any adverse effects of being brought up just me. Not always easy, but I did it

@Babygirlmum Hope you're okay! Not long left for you! How exciting! Sometimes is easier if the man is not involved. A lot of men want mothering. You are a strong woman and you can do it. Are you married to him? If not, he has no parental responsibilities to your baby whatsoever until you put his name on the birth certificate, which you don't have to do.
My ex partner can't get his head around my pregnancy, he is now on anti-depressants and I don't think he knows what he wants. He begged me to have an abortion when I found out. Which I can't forgive him for. Apparently he can't cope with the responsibilities. Abortion was not an option for me.
Is it your first baby? xx

@Greedy7 Thankyou, I have had no choice but to be strong after after the way he left me when I told him I was pregnant, no I am not married to him, and it's the same with him he couldn't get his head around I and apparently he got scared and didn't like my choice to keep the baby and pushed me away as he doesn't want to be a dad and doesn't feel nothing towards baby, this isn't my first baby I have a daughter to a previous relationship, it's a hard situation as I just don't know what's going to happen once baby is here but what I do know is that I have worked so hard to know over come the state he has left me in while pregnant, good luck with your pregnancy I'm sure you are a strong person too

Just remember that everything happens for a reason. You have overcome so much already, you will be able to deal with anything else that comes your way. I have a daughter from a previous relationship also, she's nearly 8 so will be my little helper. Good luck with everything xx

@Greedy7 Thankyou I appreciate it and I hope everything goes well for you, my daughter is also nearly 8 🙊 it's such a good age gab as they are really good and will help
Rather than have two very young children my daughter is so excited to be a big sister, good luck with your pregnancy lovely

My ex decided he didn’t want to be a father when I was 10 weeks pregnant and hasn’t been in contact or anything and my son is now 8 months old. It was one of the toughest things I went through but I’m proud of myself for raising my son without him. I agree with other posters get a good support network for when baby comes I luckily had a friend who was my birth partner and she even came to scans with me. My ex looked at a photo of my son when he was born after being shown by a family member of his and it didn’t even make him want to get in touch so I see it as his loss. I hope you are ok it’s really not a nice thing to go through you will come out the other side such a strong woman though. Wishing you the best

@Sweetpea12 I gave birth to my darling girl she is now one week old and the most perfect little girl i am overly obsessed with her, he has not been in contact however he doesn't know she is born as he didn't know her due date anyway as he never wanted to know, I don't know if he has seen a picture there is a small possibility however I don't really know for sure but what I do know is that he is missing out massively as she is a beautiful little sweet baby girl and I have fallen in love all over again, I will never understand the mind of a man and how they can do such a thing, Thankyou I appreciate it.

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl

Congratulations. It’s his loss.