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Don't know what to do....feel like a bad mother.

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Greedy7 · 21/03/2022 13:13

I moved away form my home town last year for a fresh start. Part of me now thinks that i may have been running away from my problems. My daughter came with me and now I am nearly 12 weeks pregnant. I am completely home sick and need my families support. How can I move my daughter away from her new friends? Also unborn babies dad says he will not be able to be part of the babies life if I move back home. I feel so lost and alone.

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Wouldntitbenicetobeinyourshoes · 21/03/2022 16:32

How old is your daughter?
Maybe she will be excited to move back to see old friends & be closer to family?
Is there a reason the Dad of the new baby won’t be able to get a coach/train to visit & you visit him with baby in return?
I think if you are in need of family support and feeling homesick now, there will be a risk of you feeling worse once the baby is born & sleepless nights are added to the mix. Feeling low, hormones, difficulties & sleeplessness could maybe result in PND.

Would you be able to easily find somewhere to live back in your home town or be able to stay with family? Could your longing to return be hormones thinking?

Greedy7 · 21/03/2022 17:09

My daughter is 7. She does want to be near to my parents, she has a really close relationship with them, they try to come up every weekend. Babies dad does actually drive and I said I would drive half way every other weekend and holidays, he said he can't have a long distance relationship with his child. To be honest it has made me think a bit less of him, also since I got pregnant everything seems to be about him, how he will cope and how he feels. He told me to have an abortion when i first found out and that he couldn't cope with the responsibilities. I have a history of anxiety and depression and do not want to fall back into that, i'm afraid if i stay here i will. It may well be my hormones, this is why I am not rushing into anything at the moment. I still have 2 months left on my tenancy so I have to wait for that. I would probably have to get on the council house register if I can unless I can borrow money, which is not something I want to do. Thank you for your reply i felt like I was going mad x

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Wouldntitbenicetobeinyourshoes · 21/03/2022 21:42

You’re not going mad. It’s good you see so much of your parents, it sounds like they will be lots of help whatsoever you decide.
The dad sounds like he will be an absent father regardless of how close you live. I’m sure, with your parents support, it will all work out Flowers

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