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Fighting

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Prettynails · 20/03/2022 16:36

Mine have a large age gap they have fought all week. To the point where I left work early on Monday as it was nice weather and ‘phoned them to offer them a nice lift home’ normally they walk 45 mins to school (their choice). They fought in the car on the way home so I drove them back to school and dropped them off. I’m a strong independent woman. For two weeks bedrooms have been a flipping tip - still a tip at midday despite me threatening to empty them and take them to the tip. Youngest hit me 10 times and screamed at me so did the eldest. They have screamed all day and fought and refused to do their rooms. I asked them to help with hanging the washing up they started jumping on the trampoline and fucking about. Eventually we cleared up the leaves etc it took 10 minutes but actually took 4 hours. They are either fighting, screaming or messing my house up.

I have about 10 hours of work to do for my own work so I’m going to pull an all nighters I thought banning phones and tablets would mean they would help they are just running around screaming in the garden - I could lock them out but they would just bang and break the windows. I just want to get in the car and drive off right now

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GrazingSheep · 20/03/2022 16:40

How old are they?

Prettynails · 20/03/2022 17:15

Nearly 15 and 8

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Prettynails · 20/03/2022 17:17

They have at least stopped fighting but it is pretty relentless she has no contact with her dad he does - dad is not supportive and has a court order limiting contact - he winds youngest up playing games during video calls (twice a week court ordered) playing hide and seek and other games he won’t address his behaviour

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MagpiePi · 20/03/2022 17:30

I know your pain OP and if I had found a way of stopping my two boys from fighting i would have written a best selling book and be typing this from my private island in the Bahamas!

i think you are right to do things like dropping them back at school when they are so disrespectful and badly behaved.
I would leave their rooms as they are, and if they don't help hanging washing up, then leave their things in a damp pile. Also, don't 'ask' them to help, make them do the job on their own, preferably without the other sibling.

Make it clear that there are consequences to their actions, or inactions. It is such hard work when you are on your own though.

GrazingSheep · 20/03/2022 18:24

Are they in the same school? Given the disparity in ages ..

Prettynails · 20/03/2022 19:10

One is juniors and one is seniors their schools are next door to each other

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Timeface · 26/03/2022 10:20

Your 15 year old hit YOU 10x?

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