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Ex taking 4 months off work!

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Lonecatwithkitten · 17/03/2022 08:05

My Ex who has been very flaky over maintenance over the years has decide that as he has work so hard through Covid he is going to take May to September off handily missing his last 4 maintenance payments.
Perhaps if he was an NHS doctor or nurse I could understand, but he is a runner for medical studies drives to peoples houses waits for their sample, collects up several samples and then delivers them to a hub.
I work in an industry that has continued through our Covid, got busier and is recognised to be in crisis with staff leaving all over the place. One of my sites is beneath his flat so I get to see how many hours he is out of the house (maybe 4 a day)!
It would be so lovely to take 4 months off from keeping a roof over our child's head, but clearly as a mother that's not an option.

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Putdownthecake · 17/03/2022 08:43

Of course this isn't acceptable but at least he can have the child full time? If he's not paying he needs to pull his weight looking after them. What do you mean by last 4 payments? How old is your children?

AHungryCaterpillar · 17/03/2022 08:46

Well at least it’s only 4 months, my ex has taken 5 years off work! Hasn’t worked since we split 5 years ago.

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Lonecatwithkitten · 17/03/2022 17:39

@Putdownthecake

Of course this isn't acceptable but at least he can have the child full time? If he's not paying he needs to pull his weight looking after them. What do you mean by last 4 payments? How old is your children?
Sorry failed to add DD is 18 so his commitment ends in August. She won't go to him and if she was younger I couldn't send her due previous emotional Abuse and his partners daughter being taken into care due to neglect. He paid properly for about 3 years out of the last 10 years. It's not just the money it's that I repaired the broken child that he caused.
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unicornsarereal72 · 18/03/2022 07:13

He is doing it to get a reaction a last stuff you as the end is in sight for paying support. It is shit. But you have got this, your daughter I'm sure is a fine young adult because of you.

Just be glad that now you have further need to be in contact with him and see it as the price to pay for that.

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