My Ex + his girlfriend are driving me mad!!

[natasha66]

Any advice would be very appreciated. Bascially my ex has a girlfriend who gets really annoyed if I ever have to call him. I very rarely call him and only if something important or a problem. Anyway, when I do I can hear her shouting abuse towards me down the phone. Have talked to him about it but his is really weak and clearly can't control her outbursts. I have moved on and am not remotely interested in them at all. If anyone has suggestions about how to handle this would be great.

Thanks.

I wouldn't give her the time of day. This is her issue, she obviously feels threatened by you and needs to 'threaten' back. Can't you have his mobile number? Just remain calm and ignore her - as that appears to be what your weak ex does...

I'd ask him if he was prepared to call you when you need to speak to him, within say an hour and without her in the background, then just text him instead.

I'm assuming he is your child(ren)'s father? Does he see the child(ren) with her around, I'd be wary about that myself.

Thank you for the advice. I only call him on his mobile as its way too much hassle to call the house. I just find it so hard to remain calm when basically a complete stranger is shouting her mouth off about a situation she knows nothing about - it is so frustrating.

Try texting him instead, then you don;t have to listen to the silly moo youwling. Is he reasonable otherwise?

She could just be an ignorant cow, or maybe she thinks she's defending your ex (who knows what he's told her about you!)
Texting is a good idea, and if you need to actually talk to him get him to find a quiet place and call you when he has some privacy. If he's too weak to shut the harpie up then the least he culd to is lock himself in the loo or go out for a walk to talk to you!

The whole thing is so juvenile and immature, they really believe that I am interested in them - and I suppose the more disinterested I am the more annoyed they get - apparently she is angry because I don't take her seriously - can you imagine - like I've nothing better to do than think about his latest girlfriends.

I do get the 'yes', 'no' answers when she is in the room and then 2 hours later a phone call where he is larger than life Mr. Chatty. For me, its that part that drives me mad, what is the problem? I was his ex when she met him so its nothing new.

natasha I dont think you should stop speaking to him on the phone because she is a bit psycho as you have a child together so she has to accept that the both of you are going to need to talk, the next time she does it laugh about it to him like oh there she goes again, lol, in the end he will get fed up with her shouting abuse and will put his foot down, I think that as long as you only ring him when you need too rather than it be every day for silly little things it should all blow over