Alone and Upset

[LoneLou]

Help! My X walked out on me New years Day and it's my 30th tomorrow (talk about a kick in the teeth), he told me he was leaving me for someone he'd been seeing for 2 months. We'd been going out for 7 years and we have a 5 year old, he's gorgeous.

I feel so alone but know I have to be strong for our boy. I have no idea whats going on inside his head, he's so young.

He's already met the other woman, but only introduced as daddys friend, as we both agreed. He seems to like her, which makes me both happy and angry, he has to like her I suppose.

I just need someone to hear me!

He has to go to apply for parental rights if you are not married.
Someone will be along in a minute, I hope, that knows more than me.

Yes, if he you weren't married he has to apply for parental rights. This is what happened with XP when we split as we were unmarried parents. You BOTH have to sign a document for it to be legal.

His behaviour sounds so cruel and I'm sorry you are having to deal with this right now, it's like being kicked when you are down.

I do understand how awful depression can be as I suffered very badly with PND a few months after my DS was born, it does affect your relationships with people

Do you think you could reach out to some of your old friends or does that feel like 'too much'? Do you have a anyone at all nearby?

i think the law changed, that if the father is on the bc, then he automatically has pr, married or not?

yeap ass of feb 2004 i think.

if the fathers name is on teh register then he has automatic parental rights.

before that he only had them if you were married.

"think the law changed, that if the father is on the bc, then he automatically has pr, married or not?"

I think after a certain date...not Feb 2004 though as DS was born in Nov 2004. Will do some research.

Where are you LL ?

Here is a link from DirectGov which may help.

The law is different in Scotland, where I am.

Parental Rights

Janos I live in England, I've checked the link out and from what I make out we both have to go to get this parental rights thing for him.

I've no problem with this because I want him to see son he's the one thats done the dirty but it's me that feels like I don't want to get anyone involved and just let him see him, take him on holidays and stuff I can agree with that, can't understand why he's doing this? but then can't understand why he cheated?

thanks everyone it's helped alot just wish you could all come round my house and talk about MEN!!!!!

Makes me angry Lou...because of people like your ex everyone assumes that I did the same.

But something positive: You have your son. You have him to look after and you'll cope and do well because he depends on you.

It gets easier - just doesn't feel like that could ever be the case for a long while. Just hang on.

Dontcallmehun I live in Leicester if I could meet up with someone that would be great

Thanks everyone It has made me feel alot better just can't wait for the end of this dark tunnel.