Is this too much or should I just get on with it?

[Lollysticks12]

I would love some opinions please. Single parent to 3 teenagers. ExH too ill to do much. Working 35hours and studying on top of work which I'm finding hard. Work want me to do another 2 years after this. 🙁 I also like to fit in some excercise, see family and friends occasionally and keep a tidy house, I feel its too much but can't help thinking I should just be more organised, is it alot or just what I'll have to do?

What do teens do to help?

Do they do their own washing/cook meals/housework etc?

It's a lot as any parent of teens will tell you. As pp asks - what are the kids doing around the house? They should be not only keeping their rooms tidy but also vacuuming and washing up and cooking at least once a week each.
If you can afford it get a cleaner do do bathrooms and floors - whatever you find a complete pain.
But otherwise - yes, it can be exhausting but is the study related to your job? Is it to further your career? You mention two years - what's the end result then? how old are your kids now?

I assume you can't reduce your hours?

If they don't already, your teenagers should be doing a lot of the work round the house IMO, particularly things that affect them personally eg laundry, cooking, keeping communal areas clean and tidy. Make them responsible for divvying up the work and don't get drawn into arguments about who's turn it is to do things!
I would also put the 'mental load' for their own lives onto them as much as possible. You are not responsible for checking if they have done their homework or have their PE kit.
It can seem easier to just do things yourself in the short term, but they can be trained.
Also, get this fridge magnet and refer them to it when necessary :)

@00100001 the kids are good, they will do what's asked and they take it turns clearing up after tea, washing, their bedrooms, empty dishwasher.

@magpiePi I think the mental load is the main thing, son is so forgetful and I switch between leaving him to it and letting him deal with consequences and trying to make him better. Middle child, trying to get her to revise for mocks so she will at least pass GCSE'S.

@ukborn it's to help with my job and in the event I don't have a job here, it will make it easier to get another. I like the idea of a cleaner I will look into that, thanks