Absent father

[Lilly101x]

Hello I am new on here and I’m not sure really what I’m expecting but would like to know if anyone is in the same or similar situation.
Back in January 2021 I fell pregnant with my daughter who is 4 months now, I was seeing someone and it all happened very quick but this man was willing to be in his daughters life he had another daughter from a previous relationship who he was not aloud contact with up until she found out he was having another child (whole other story). Since having my daughter he has spoken to me once I have sent numerous photos of his daughter I have practically begged for him to be in her life and just nothing from him at all he reads all the messages but still ignores me. Can I add I have no romantic feelings for this man and made this clear before my daughter was born that we where going to be good friends and we really did get on and now he has just vanished. I will add that he does see his other daughter. Has anyone been in a similar situation has the dad ever came back ? I know she is better without him but my heart truly breaks thinking about the conversations with her when she is older. Sorry for the long winded post x

Totally empathise with you. Separated from baby’s dad when pregnant and all amicable until he met someone new and then refused to be in my son’s life. Initially I was heartbroken for my baby and spent way too much time worrying that I needed to force the relationship. But now I hope we never ever hear from him again and stays away. Honestly, you’ll be fine

You can't make someone want to be a parent. And what would be worse for your daughter is being with her father and him showing her he really isnt interested.

Send one more message the door is open when you are ready to be a father to x. Then stop trying to engage with him. I know how hard that is. All you can do is focus on you. And your own family now. She will know no different.

Honestly you have enough on your plate with Dd.

Contact the cms.. He isn't going to ne a good dad because you beg him..

Your Dd will be fine with a mum who loves her.

I think you will find everywhere in life there are absent fathers. Not unusual in the least. By the time she is at school you will realise this. Though the more dynamic/energetic ones work full time so you may not find they have time to chat.