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Moved house. Do I have to give ex our new address?

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StarCourt · 18/02/2022 00:37

DD13 and I recently moved house. Her dad is telling me that I'm legally obligated to give him our new address.
For context in June 2021 DD decided she didn't want to go and stay with her dad any more. Within the next few weeks he turned up at the door and argued snd shouted at me, forced his way in even though she didn't want to see him and turned up as she was leaving school .
Since June she has had a few phone calls and texts with him and spent a day with him at Xmas when she came home extremely upset as he'd been badmouthing me to her.
He has lots of past form for not listening, interfering in my life and upsetting DD with his behaviour.
We've been divorced since she was 3 and had a 60/40 split of care since then up until last June.
He knew we were moving but I haven't given him our new address. He has a habit of just turning up and DD doesn't want to see him.
Do I have a legal obligation to him?

OP posts:
3peassuit · 18/02/2022 08:45

Was the contact court ordered?

penelopequiche · 18/02/2022 08:50

I am a lawyer but not a family one! My gut feeling is that if your dd doesn't want to see him the court would respect that (she's 13) and you wouldn't be obliged. I certainly wouldn't volunteer the information unless he provides something that obliges you to. Say to him if I'm legally obligated to provide my address show me the proof. Might be worth a free hours legal advice if you can get one and things escalate.

Really18 · 18/02/2022 08:50

I don't think you have to give him your address. I would provide him with am email address and a contact drop off destination. Realisyically it isn't hard to get an address if you know how.

ChoiceMummy · 18/02/2022 08:56

Legally you're not obligated without a cao stating otherwise to give your new address.
Morally is down to perception.
Imo, if he has a way of contacting re your child, be that text, email or telephone, then really at 13 years of age, he could arrange any contact directly with dd.

Original poster
StarCourt · 18/02/2022 09:04

We do have a CAO dating from when DD was 5 and it doesn't specifically state anywhere that if either of us moved house we must tell the other.
There's no need to arrange a pick up/drop off point as DD has no intention of seeing him. He has her phone number and calls, texts and what's apps her. But she rarely responds because she doesn't want to talk to him

OP posts:
FelicityPike · 18/02/2022 09:06

No you don’t.

penelopequiche · 18/02/2022 09:29

I think what you have in place is enough then, no need to give anything further

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 18/02/2022 09:47

At 12 my ds went nc with his df despite a court order..
No need to give your address out.
He is a chancer.. Block in all ways op.

Original poster
StarCourt · 18/02/2022 09:49

I'm happy enough responding to him but don't give anything away

OP posts:
3peassuit · 18/02/2022 13:27

A court would respect a 13 year olds choice. As long as he has a contact number I can’t see why you should be obliged to give him your address.

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