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Does anyone else feel this way

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Needanewadventure2021 · 16/02/2022 22:50

Ok, so a little back story. I have been a single parent since January 2016. Since my son was 18 month old. He will be 8 soon, so most his life. No contact from his Dad. His dads choice!

My son's had a tough life health wise. Thankfully nothing serious but alot of hospital admissions and 3 operations that his Dad had no interest in despite the consultant requesting his presence (he refused). We are now currently on the ASD pathway for the 3rd time since my son was 3. This is because appointments never come through apart from the initial assessments. It's such a battle, honestly it breaks my heart how hard it has been to get something in place for him.
We struggle financially. Life is hard. We got left in alot of debt by his Dad that I was left to pay (my name). I have no life for myself. It's dedicated to my son and battling to get him the support he needs and give him the best I can on the little I have.

Anyway I realise I just need to ignore it but I saw something earlier of some work my son's Dad is doing. I cant really say the nature as its outing but I really cannot stand reading the comments of how amazing people think he is and how the world needs more men like him, and how the world is a better place with him in it etc. And the way he responds like his some sort of God. Makes me feel sick and angry.
I know it shouldn't bother me but at the moment it does. Probably because life is becoming increasingly hard on many levels. I commend the line of work he is in but I cant give him any praise because of how he has abandoned his own child (well actually 4 kids, yes he has 4 children in total and sees none of them). How can you do so much for so many others but nothing for your own?

A needless vent really but is anyone else fed up of people thinking the sun shines about their crappy ex's/kids dad's arse? When quire frankly they are a massive piece of shit

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RandomMess · 16/02/2022 22:55

Hmmmm so he's working?

Time to go back to CMS z and put in a claim!

It's natural to feel aggrieved and all this public admiration for a pathetic excuse of a man Thanks

Needanewadventure2021 · 16/02/2022 22:58

CMS are involved. Its a DOE which gets paid irregularly and never the correct amount. It barely covers anything a month. Its an insult really. He also works on the side but the CMS have been no help at all. Basically say we can only pay you what we are sent. If no money is sent then we can't send anything. They rarely chase missed or short payments.

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RandomMess · 16/02/2022 22:58
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Donut22 · 16/02/2022 23:04

Yes!! No help but I totally understand. My ex is a piece of shit but is "loved" by so many, if they really knew what he was like and not what they have seen from being around him for such a short time they would be shocked. Plus his mother who has seen and heard what he's done to me and others multiple times does nothing but praise him! Winds me up so much 🙄

RedCandyApple · 16/02/2022 23:09

They probably don’t know he has kids, my ex doesn’t tell anyone, he doesn’t work but he does meet women and has relationships and pretends he has no kids to them and that bugs me how he lies to people

Needanewadventure2021 · 16/02/2022 23:22

It's so annoying isn't it. He isn't part of our lives and I am grateful for that. But seeing how he is praised makes me feel so angry.
I cant say for his older two, but I know people knew about my DS as I was told many times I should be ashamed keeping a good dad away from his child.....couldn't have been further from the truth. At that time I was literally forcing the contact. I eventually gave up because I wasn't spending my life begging someone who had no interest. They also know about his youngest but he blames the women and they all accept it.

I think the line of work hurts me alot though. Due to my own son's health and life struggles. His literally top of his game in his career but can't help his own

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RedCandyApple · 16/02/2022 23:28

I try not to think about him tbh and don’t class him as my children’s father. He’s played no father role in their lives. Maybe detach a bit more from it and don’t check out his social media etc

Needanewadventure2021 · 16/02/2022 23:32

Yes very true

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