I know it sounds great but it’s not normal. Dd 10 has literally not lost her temper in 5?6?7? Years? In which time she has lived through a divorce with her Dad ( amicable and sees him all the time) moving into a blended family and unfortunately seeing a lot of shouting and bad behaviour from her stepfather and I. Another story that one but it’s been bloody hard. As ridiculous as it sounds I want her to just show some anger when life dosent go her way. She just gets quiet and sad. It breaks my heart. I don’t know what to do to make her feel more comfortable expressing herself. I’m worried I’ve gone her irreparable damage. I try and talk to her about it but she shuts down. The shouting that she has been around is not usually at her ( although I definitely do lose it at her when I’m stressed) and she adores her stepfather and him her. It’s mostly me losing my shit as work too much / life stressors/ money problems. Would love to hear if anyone has experienced similar or was the same as a child. It’s devastating to think I could have damaged her self esteem in this way.