Feeling alone

[GemmaC87]

Hi

I am new to this group and don't know where to start.

I'm hoping some people on here can help.
I feel very alone most of the time. I've got a little boy of 4. I don't have no hobbies or interests, I don't know what I like anymore. When he goes to bed I feel even worse.

Anyone else feel like this?

Hi OP. Well first off you're not alone. I spend many a night sitting reading mumsnet.

I'm a single mum to my boys (1 and 3). Split with my ex in July 2021. He cheated when I was pregnant and I found out in July.

I get the lonely feeling. I read, watch TV and I love to crochet. Have you got any interests or anything you think you could become interested in?

I work 3 days and week and I try to go out 1 or 2 times per week. Even if it's just meeting a friend at the park with the kids.

Anyway just wanted to say hi 👋

Yep just been thinking about this actually, I’m a Lone parent to 4 and I have no life, I have no social life nothing my life purely revolves around them. Feel very sad and lonely.

Do either of you use Facebook? Maybe we could set up a private group? Easier to chat and at least we won't feel so alone 😊

Sorry that's how lonely I get I just go to bed when my son does. Was asleep by 8:15 last night.
My marriage broke down in 2019 and then have dated 2 people who then treated me like a mug as I call it.
So now just feel so lonely. All my mates are with people.
I don't actually know what interests I have anymore or things I like sounds so stupid doesn't it.
Thanks for replying back to me.
I've got Facebook.

X

I'd be interested in a lone parents FB group too!

You're not alone OP!
I have 2 boys, ones aged 5 and the youngest is 1.
My ex husband left me during my second pregnancy and even though I'm so happy being so devoted to my boys I do feel so lonely. I wish I had an extra pair of hands and company on days out so I could enjoy it all more.
I'm not anti social but being a lone parent does force you into that bracket!

Always here to chat ♥️♥️♥️

You aren't alone OP. I've been a single mum for 10 years. I dated someone for four years but it didn't work out. I've spent lots of time since, rediscovering the things I enjoy.

I'm much happier and more confident now. It will come to you too.

Hi, there is an app for lone parents called FROLO I've found it very supportive

Yeah I love my son so much. I think I could be a bit depressed and some days I don't wanna do anything but I get up and go to work and get up for my son. But if wasn't for that I would be staying in bed. Sounds stupid I know. But I don't know what causes me to feel like this. I don't actually think I like being on my own. I like to be with someone.
I never used to be like this that's why I'm finding this hard. X

Hi OP
I could have written this word for word. Also have DS aged 4. Marriage broke up in 2019. Ex moved to another country. So it's just me. I think everyone should really have some sort of counseling after a divorce. It is a traumatic event. I sit here every night lonely. It is beginning to make me resentful of people and life. I've just gone completely silent on everyone.

Ah I'm so sorry your going through the same. It's horrible. And yeah think your right I might need to go for counselling. Some days I feel ok other days I don't. Evenings are worse. Like I've put myself to bed again tonight at this hour 🤦🏻‍♀️
Really hope your ok as I know how it feels. And yeah I'm the same have backed away from people. X

Hi Gemma, you are not alone! I’ve been a single mum for 10 years . Just PM me if you need to talk , any time! Ting

Sorry your feeling this way. Can you find a hobby, a goal to work towards?

Sorry I've not wrote back. Just really not feeling myself and don't know how to find me again so I stop this feeling of being alone. I don't like being on my own. So it makes me feel down. I most probably sound crazy. X

You don't sound crazy, I think that's actually quite a normal feeling especially if you are a people person and enjoy being around others. Being a single parent is very isolating and it's not easy to go out and do things to distract yourself as you have a small human with you all the time!

If you had time to yourself what kind of things would you enjoy doing? As DC gets older it will become easier, in the meantime, do they see their other parent? Do you have any support at all?

For me I find I'm held back quite a lot financially, I have four children with no financial help from their dad so I am supporting them and the house solely. Frustrating at times but I try and see the positive in it all too!

Ah thank you. I do feel crazy at times like I am a people person. I want to be in a relationship now been dating someone but his just messed me around so don't do well with breakups. So feeling even more lonely. The thing is I don't know what I like anymore or like doing anymore I've completely lost who I am.
Yeah my son sees his dad every other weekend when his dad can be bothered. I've got good family but I don't tell them how I'm feeling. They can see I'm not me but they ask but I say I'm fine 🤦🏻‍♀️ x