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Tell me I'm doing the right thing by staying in??

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Magdeltwinkle · 31/12/2007 22:29

In with DD (13) tonight. Mates out on the town and got a message from a dating website off a really hunky (very rare) guy who lives 60 miles away telling me he's out in my (small) area. Feeling a bit peeved. DD says I can nip out for a couple but I carnt bring myself to leave her to see NY in alone. I am doing the right thing arn't I?

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ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 31/12/2007 22:30

if you really want to go could she invite a friend over to see it in with her?

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Magdeltwinkle · 31/12/2007 22:34

Her mate who lives a stones throw away has just Msned her and I said to get her to come down but I really think she needs wants me with her.

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chocolatespiders · 31/12/2007 22:36

no i dont think you should drop your night with dd for this guy... i know how hard dating is when lone parent, but wouldnt do this.... you are worth more than a last min invatation...

sherbert · 31/12/2007 22:37

You are doing the right thing, stay with your daughter.

Ledodgy · 31/12/2007 22:38

I agree with Chocolate. Treasure this time spending NYE with your dd soon enough she'll be off out every year doing her own thing so enjoy it while you can.

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Magdeltwinkle · 31/12/2007 22:42

Thanks, I do cherish it. Its just so difficult and I've been a single mum staying in for all the last NYE's that I can remember and I'm getting older. I did send him a message back so if hes interested there will be other opportunities.

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chocolatespiders · 31/12/2007 22:48

absolutely there will be other oppurtunities..

Happy New Year

SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl · 31/12/2007 22:48

i think you can suppose he is after a quickie but it depends what you want

lou33 · 31/12/2007 22:52

i would definitely assume he was after a shag for nye, but it would depends on how much you liked him, how much you fancied a one nighter, and how mature dd was

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Magdeltwinkle · 31/12/2007 22:55

Probably. Its was a message out of the blue as I dont bother much with internet dating. My profile doesnt have a photo and mostly get messages from losers. He just asked me to recommend some nice pubs for tonight so it wasnt even a date. Think I would have bumped into him though. Was tempted to go out even before this unexpected message

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lou33 · 31/12/2007 22:56

he is trying to tempt you

Beetootoyourself · 31/12/2007 22:57

anyone you meet on NYE will be agter a shag and not much more

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Magdeltwinkle · 31/12/2007 23:09

Not into that at all. Got the t-shirt etc. Its not unusual for guys to come here though for NY and all year really as its a tourist area. I have now resigned myself to staying in and am fighting over the computer with DD as she's on MSN. (Mental note to get her a laptop next birthday)

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lou33 · 31/12/2007 23:40

get yourself a laptop and mn from bed

much better

LittleBellasRingingInTheNew · 01/01/2008 00:09

God no contest

Stay in with DD

If he's interested he'll be in touch. If not, you'll never hear from him again. As you wouldn't have after tomorrow, but the difference is that DD won't have the memory that you left her alone on NYE to chase a one night stand.

Happy New Year!

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Magdeltwinkle · 01/01/2008 00:10

Hi Lou, seen your posts before. Happy new year to you, big hugs.

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Magdeltwinkle · 01/01/2008 00:11

Thanks Littlebells, Did stay in and had a lovely dance to Olde Langs Syne. Happy new year to you.

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lou33 · 01/01/2008 00:15

and to you too

LittleBellasRingingInTheNew · 01/01/2008 00:22

I ended up playing chess with DS. We started at 9.30 and I was reading threads here and not really concentrating and at 11.45 he said "oh I'm too tired to concentrate any more", having alarmed me and forced me to concentrate and very nearly beating me! I really wasn't intending to stay up, but once it had got so late, I sort of felt I had to...

blanki · 01/01/2008 00:35

Happy New Year! Ds 2.9 woke with the fireworks and nasty coughing about half 11, So we had calpol and sports candy with a wee drink of juice, me wearing his musical reindeer antlers to bring the New Year! First time Ive not been on my own for a long time!Beat that

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Magdeltwinkle · 01/01/2008 01:01

I've stayed in anyway and had a lovely night. DD was on MSN and her friends uncle had been around town and apparently it was heaving. I didnt want to here that!!

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lou33 · 01/01/2008 01:10

i dont like heaving

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Magdeltwinkle · 01/01/2008 01:14

Lol, at the heaving lou. I bet no-one can get a taxi and its pissing down. I'm sat in comfort with my DD and more booze (and cigs) than you can shake a stick at. Where did that expression come from?

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lou33 · 01/01/2008 01:17

lol no idea
i have booze too but i dont usually drink at home
tho the cava is fast disappearing

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Magdeltwinkle · 01/01/2008 01:21

I maybe wrong as its been known before on Mumsnet. But I think I looked at a thread you were on that was about plentyoffish. I signed up to it. Am I wrong Lou?

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