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School holidays

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SallyAnn32 · 08/02/2022 21:09

How do you sort school holiday sharing with ex's? My ex sees DD2 one night per week and EOW. DD1 doesn't have a relationship with her dad.

I asked ex to let me know his plans for DD in the hols and he said he isn't going to give any extra time because he sees her after school and before school therefore the days are not his responsibility. Is this the done thing or is he being a tit?

I work term time so childcare isn't a issue but the financial and physical responsibility is on me for the kids every school holiday.

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coodawoodashooda · 08/02/2022 21:11

I would be delighted.

newbiename · 08/02/2022 21:21

He's being a tit.

thefourgp · 08/02/2022 21:23

He’s being a tit. He should be happy to have the opportunity of spending more time with his child.

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SallyAnn32 · 08/02/2022 21:25

@thefourgp exactly what I said! Their relationship is already iffy and he isn't doing anything to help it.

I thought he'd jump at the chance to spend extra time with his gorgeous little girl ☹️

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isitbedtimeplease · 08/02/2022 21:27

Same here
Just fools
They're missing out but you're right... it's a huge financial and emotional drain and would be nice to have a little break!

Rodion · 08/02/2022 21:32

How horrible of him. I suppose at least your lovely DD isn't going to have to spend much time around someone who doesn't really want her there. Rubbish that it has to be like that though.

RedCandyApple · 08/02/2022 22:26

Can’t force someone to have them more unfortunately.

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SallyAnn32 · 08/02/2022 22:40

He wants her on his terms. So after lots of back and forth he said in August he'll have DD for 3 nights one week then none the next because 'he's done his part'. It's shit how it's all ok his terms. I would never say well I've done 2 weeks in Easter so now I'm done for a month. It's so shitty!

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unicornsarereal72 · 09/02/2022 07:26

I wouldn't even ask. Let him stick to his eow. And see how that works out for him in time. My ex was the same with his all so important job. Kids would rather be here where they have all their belongings and don't feel like a visitor. Eldest doesn't go anymore now.

thefourgp · 09/02/2022 08:52

My ex is the same. I don’t rely on him for anything except the bare minimum he’s willing to do. I’ve learnt it’s less stressful than constantly battling to get him to be a responsible/involved parent.

FoamBurst · 09/02/2022 17:42

Dh / I have dsc half of all school holidays /. Easter /alternate Xmas or boxing day.

DH can't have all that time off work so dsc stays with me when he's working

FoamBurst · 09/02/2022 17:43

And my ds goes maybe 1 week in summer and sometimes an odd week or extra couple of nights in half terms but ds is older so he tends to decide. When he was younger it was 1 week in summer

cherryonthecakes · 11/02/2022 08:07

My ex is the same. If the shoe was on the other foot, I'd find it hard not to even book a day or two off so I could have a long weekend off with my child.

cherryonthecakes · 13/02/2022 16:24

I think I broke the curse by posting on this thread. For the first time in 10 YEARS, ex has asked to have ds for a few extra days over half term. I am gobsmacked as I thought it would never happen

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SallyAnn32 · 13/02/2022 19:00

@cherryonthecakes

I think I broke the curse by posting on this thread. For the first time in 10 YEARS, ex has asked to have ds for a few extra days over half term. I am gobsmacked as I thought it would never happen
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 brilliant!
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