Do I stay or do I leave?

[happyrachx]

Hi mums
Need abit of advice,
I'm really not happy in my relationship anymore, my son has recently been diagnosed with global development delay and I'm trying with the life of me to hold everything together!
I work part time aswell. My partner doesnt help around the house at all (feels like I've got another child) literally everything is left to me to do, I hardly ever get a break unless im at work or his dad takes him out but when he's taking him out im just doing housework it never stops! I get no pleases or thank you nor any appreciation. He doesn't drink all the time but when he does he's abusive saying he hates me I'm a slag or I'm a fat cunt etc list goes on the next day he can't remember saying it! He gets ass on if I go to the gym too much! All this has put a strain on our relationship I have sat down an explained how I feel about everything but it is still the same.
I wanted to stay together for our son because he needs us both but I just feel like I'm in a unsupported relationship.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
(Don't comment if it's negative!!)

Think you will be much happier alone with one child to bring up and clean up after..

Please don't stay with someone for the old adage of "for the sake of the child" - your child will grow up thinking your relationship is normal and they will base their future relationships on yours/what they have seen growing up. Imagine in a few years time your child also starts calling you a slag or a fat cunt because that what Daddy calls you.
It doesn't sound like you are in anyway happy - trust me, if you break away (and I'm not saying it will be easy) and you find happiness in yourself, it will shine through in your parenting and go miles in making your child feel loved and supported in the midst of the change of circumstances.

It really isnt ok to call people names. I remember the tone and look on my ex face when he was angry at me. I always thought I needed to try harder. Be a better girlfriend. Truth is I would never get it right. And I felt worthless.

He left Me for ow. Adding to my worthlessness. But now I'd rather be alone than with someone who doesn't enhance my life. Relationship should be about team work. And caring for the other person. It isn't always roses but no one should call you those names.

My home is calm and happy and the kids have a much more relaxed home. Which they deserve. I know how hard it is to make change. I was putting up with an awful lot of bad behaviour. Just waiting for him to turn himself around. But he had checked out and that wasn't going to happen.

Start doing some sums. What benefits you would get and cms. You can make this work. Don't be me. Be brave and know your worth.

Thank you to you all for your input!
I agree it's not right to let my child see us argue and pick up on the things that are been said.
I'm not happy and haven't been for some time! I think it's time to look at what I can put in place and move on. X